Ever felt like you are in a relationship where you have no control over? Do you feel like the person you are dating is kind of dangling you from a hook – taking forever to respond to your texts, changing plans on you at the last minute, replying messages or returning your calls only when it suits them?

The Question:

This week’s question comes from a man who was in a long-distance relationship that ended a while back but recently reconnected with the woman he was in a relationship with, hangout, had fun and even had sex. However when he returned back home, he texted her the next day but she didn’t reply. It took her a whole two weeks to do so.

When she replied, the dude told her to “Have a nice life” because her silence sent a clear message that she wasn’t interested. But the woman was like “Wait… Wait”; citing how busy she was in her new job.

So the guy is wondering, if he overrated to her two week silence; if the woman was rely that busy. Too busy to even reply to a 2 minute text?

My Take

Christelyn Karazin is the co-author of Swirling: How to Date, Mate and Relate, Mixing Race, Culture and Creed. She also operates the popular blog, Beyond Black & White, and operate the first forum dedicated to black women interested and/or involved in interracial relationships.