Could there be a reason why a guy can be single and has never had a girlfriend? Believe it or not; guys need love too. While it may be more common for ladies to wonder when Prince Charming will come and sweep them off their feet, some guys also wonder if there is hope for them to find that one person to date and plan a future with. So we dedicate this article to those guys who have never had a girlfriend. You have our love and respect.
If you are such a guy, read on to find out why…
Why you have no girlfriend and how to change that
Are you having difficulty landing a girlfriend? Are you sick of being the third wheel on outings with your friends and their girlfriends? Or perhaps you are one of those that have concluded that you are not meant for love because of the constant failures you have had in the past? Either way, this post is for you. Fellas, get in here, read on and discover 15 reasons (in no particular order) why you have never had a girlfriend and how you can change all that.
1) You always talk about your “girlfriendless” situation
Guys, please for Pete’s sake, stop doing this! Don’t go lamenting “I’ve never had a girlfriend at 30, I will never find a girlfriend and probably die a lonely man” to a potential catch. You will push her away and make her imaginations run wild. She will start wondering what is wrong with you since you never seem to have a girlfriend. It is not a crime to have had no girlfriend. But please desist from singing this to beautiful girls that come your way. Remember, most girls won’t mind dating a guy with no relationship experience.
2) You are just too picky
Yikes! This is a major mistake guys make (sad sigh!). I guess I should blame social media for this one. You get enticed with pictures and videos of hourglass-shaped females with hot legs and “slay mamas” and get an unrealistic vision of the girl of your dreams. Anyone who falls in this category gets booted. I hate to break it to you buddy, but if you continue looking for perfection, you may never have a girlfriend. Having a beautiful girl is cool but it should not be the sole criterion. Be realistic and look for deeper qualities than breasts and bums. Look for qualities that will make the person a right fit for you.
3) You refuse to rise when you fall
You need to suck it up when girls give you the red light and come to terms with the fact that girls will reject you. It also happens the other way around so try not to take it personally. Dust yourself and try again. Do not let the fear of rejection paralyze you. You never know. Your next effort might be the one that gets you the gold! This is one of the signs a guy has never had a girlfriend.
4) You have some hygiene issues
I cannot imagine a lady who will jump at the opportunity to date a guy that always has a permanent brown stain on his collar and bad body odor. I don’t think any woman would want to date a guy who doesn’t have a good dental sense or the faintest idea of cleanliness and personal grooming. Practice good hygiene and you will begin to see improvements over time.
5) You are a loner
Don’t be the shy guy. I bet we would all be happy if we could make a wish and have a girlfriend from the comfort of our bedroom without going through all the social niceties. No girl is going to magically appear on your doorstep. This is why you need to go out. I know how difficult it can be, especially for introverts. However, you need to put in some effort. Start with a few quiet outings and interact with people. This will teach you how to approach and talk to ladies without being obviously awkward. Remember, practice makes perfect.
6) You are too proud
Most women hate having a conversation with a guy that starts with all his achievements, connections and acquisitions. You may not believe it but girls have an inner radar that picks up on such pride. This puts them off. Keep it real and let her be the one to discover all your riches before you go singing it out loud.
7) You reveal too much too soon
Don’t go telling a girl your life story from age six to date or the fact that your hometown knows that you were born out of wedlock or how you hate your family on your first meeting! The truth is that ladies will lose interest if they know everything about you on the first date. Be an onion with many layers! Let each meeting with you uncover something new and different about you. This will make the ladies come back for more.
8) You reveal too little
The reason why you’ve never had a girlfriend could be because you are not conversational. Know how to carry and sustain a conversation. Guys, ladies do not want to feel like they have to pry to get basic information about you. Read wide and make the meetings with you interesting; something every lady will look forward to.
9) You make yourself a friend-zone material
You may be a million-yard boyfriend material but you dig the pit for your downfall by becoming a king in the friend-zone kingdom. Stop being the Mr. Nice guy who listens to his date lament about her crush who doesn’t know she exists and gives advice on how to get his attention (like seriously?). You need to make her see you not as a friend but a boyfriend material. Listen to her but flirt and assure her you would never treat a lady that way. Falling into the friend-zone is one of the signs a guy has never had a girlfriend. Don’t fall into this pit.
10) You let your insecurities define you
When you let your insecurities become the voice you listen to, it can be disastrous. I can give you a thousand and one solutions to the problem of why you have never had a girlfriend, but it will not be effective if you do not love yourself enough. Remember, everyone has something they don’t like about themselves and you are not different. Change the ones you can and accept those you cannot. Whatever the case, please stop using these imperfections as excuses and belief that you are deserving of love.
11) You always make assumptions
Some guys tend to give up if they see a girl they are interested in at the movies with another guy (who may be their brother or platonic friend) or make the assumption that a lady is too beautiful not to have a boyfriend. How will you ever know for sure if you keep assuming every time? Talk to this person with confidence and get your confirmation. It may shock you to know that she may not be into anyone and that gives you ample opportunity to “take your shot!”
12) You are afraid to take risks
The game of love is a risk in itself. You cannot continue playing it safe because you want to avoid getting burnt like some of your friends. Ladies are attracted to guys who know what they want and are not afraid to go after it confidently. Stop waiting for the perfect time to do it. Instead, create the time. Get the number of the cute lady you have been ogling for days, kiss and ask out the girl you like and stop waiting for the “still perfect moment in time” to do so because it hardly comes.
13) You do not dress well
Guys, pay attention to your dressing! Why do you think ladies go all out (hair, make-up, nice clothes) when they are going out? To attract you of course! I bet you would not be attracted to a lady in shapeless gowns and messy hair. So please pay attention to your dressing- clothes, and shoes – also. You don’t have to dress expensively. Just look neat and well groomed.
14) You have no ambitions in life
You need to understand that nothing is more attractive to a lady than a man with dreams, goals and solid plans to reach them. It doesn’t have to be as huge as the Taj Mahal. Just have something solid that gets you out of bed each morning. Sure enough, ladies want your attention and want to feel loved. If you do not back up this attention with a futuristic goal and plans for its attainment, they may not respect you or want to take a chance on you.
15) You always talk about sex
If the only word that comes out of your mouth is ‘sex’, you are only going to attract people that are only interested in sex and not a relationship. Not only that, but it also gives ladies the wrong impression about you. Don’t get me wrong. It is normal to bring up the sex talk in a relationship. But this is way off base on the first date, especially if you are looking for something serious. Find other non-sexual topics and maintain interesting conversations if you want to have a girlfriend.
“Why have I never had a girlfriend?” Well, now you know. Get to work on yourself using these reasons as a guide and experience the bliss of finding the one to call your own.
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