The prostate is a wonderful gland, unique to men, which is often undervalued and even avoided. That’s because the first time many men hear of the prostate gland, it’s in reference to cancer. But this fascinating little piece of human anatomy has the potential to give its owner an incredible amount of sexual pleasure. Stimulating just the prostate can bring a man to orgasm. And when combining that with other sexual activities it can produce intense and long lasting climaxes.

For gay men, a little bit of anal play isn’t a problem, but many straight men have inhibitions about their butts. Especially if penetration is involved. Once they get over themselves and find out exactly how amazing it feels to have their prostate stimulated, they change their minds pretty quickly. So, for men who want to open their minds and their bottoms to some spine-tingling new sexual experiences, here is a little guide to discovering your prostate. You can do this on your own, but it’s probably more fun to involve a partner.


When participating in any sort of anal play, cleanliness is a really good place to start. Usually, having a poop is quite sufficient. And you might also want to have a pee as sometimes prostate stimulation can make you feel like you want to go. Not to mention that you won’t want to be interrupted while you’re busy. If you or your partner are still a bit uncomfortable about whether or not penetrating your butt will be dirty, you can always opt for douching. Otherwise, just a nice wash down there with soapy water will do the trick.

Safety and comfort

Now you need to think about safety and comfort. It’s important to remember that the membranes inside the anus are very sensitive. The prostate gland itself, especially when stimulated and enlarged, very delicate. Although there are a number of excellent prostate stimulating toys on the market, it would be best to get more familiar with your body and to start with digital penetration until you’re more confident and receptive to something larger than a finger. So make sure that nails are trimmed and filed to avoid any unpleasant injuries.

Once you’re ready to start, you’ll need to find a position that provides good access and allows you to feel comfortable. Some men like to lie on their back, while others on their sides or on all fours. Whether or not you are doing this with a partner and if you will be involving other sexual activities such as oral sex will also be a factor in finding the perfect position.

Good quality lube

sex Ultimately, generous applications of good quality lube is the key to your pleasure and comfort. When it comes to anal penetration there is no such thing as too much lube. A latex glove or a condom, placed over the finger can be used to help keep the finger clean and to keep thing smooth. Once you have a protected and well-lubed finger to explore with, you’re ready to go.

Stroking and teasing

The anal area is as sensitive as any other erogenous zone on the body. So stroking and teasing it will help to relax your anal sphincter muscles and aid penetration. Interestingly, it is possible to massage the prostate from outside the body too by rubbing the perineum. The area between the scrotum and the anus. There’s no reason not to include cock stroking, nipple pinching. If you have a partner, include licking and sucking during this process. The more turned on you are, the easier it will be to get into your butthole. And of course, the more you are going to enjoy the whole process.

Find the prostate.

Eventually, gently and with patience, the finger will be able to enter the anus. Now it’s time to find the prostate. It is located towards the front of the body. So, if you’re laying on your back, the prostate would be towards the top and curling the finger upwards would make contact. It will feel like a little mound or swollen area and you’ll know when contact has been made. After that, it’s all up to you. See what feels nice and enjoy your new favorite part of your body. If you are doing this with a partner, talk to them and tell them what feels good, how hard to touch it and with what sort of intensity. If you’re on your own, have fun. Be prepared for some of the wildest orgasms you’ve ever had. You’ll wonder why you never did this before.