So you’ve decided to jump into the online dating game – great! It’s a lot of fun, and can be a great way to meet new people, but getting started can be a bit overwhelming. Here are a collection of helpful tips designed to help you get the most out of it.
Site Selection Matters
What are you ultimately looking for? What are you hoping to get out of online dating? If all you want is a hookup, there are plenty of sites that cater to that. If you’re looking to meet someone for a long term relationship, you’ll naturally gravitate to a different set of sites.
You should also be aware that there are a huge number of dating sites out there. There are big general singles sites, but if you have an interest in a particular type of person (man or woman), you can find dating sites that cater to just about every taste and preference.
Are you interested in dating interracially? InterracialDatingCentral.com is the site for you.
Interested in meeting single moms or dads? There’s a dating website that specializes in that.
Do you love to meet Black men and women? Afroromance.com is your go-to choice.
There are dating sites that focus on writers, emos, and just about everything else you can imagine, so think carefully about exactly what you’re looking for, and pick the dating site that seems the best fit for you.
Making a great profile is one part art, and one part science. Obviously, you want to be honest in your profile, but you don’t want to tell your whole life’s story. You want to offer up just enough information to give someone reading your profile a good sense of who you are, and you want to write enough about yourself to let your personality shine through.
Profiles with pictures get a lot more attention than profiles without, so you’ll want to include at least three or four. These should be current (no more than 3-4 months old) and an accurate representation of who you are, because it’s true: While looks aren’t everything, at least some level of attraction is important, so you’ve got to be willing to put yourself out there.
Statistics have shown that women prefer pictures of men in full body shots. Men prefer pictures of women that focus on face shots. This isn’t to say that you can’t mix and match, but it is something to keep in mind.
Remember, your profile is literally the only thing that another member of the dating site has to go on. He or she is going to be evaluating you, just like you’re going to be evaluating them. Your preferences, likes and dislikes, and how they compare with their own. That only works though, if both sides are honest, so if you’re looking for a lasting relationship, then you’ve got to just put it out there. If some of the people pass you by because of it, that’s okay.
The bottom line is, online dating, when used correctly, can be a powerful tool you can use to find the man or woman of your dreams – what are you waiting for?