It sounds like the proverbial male fantasy to have a girlfriend who is insatiable and seems to only want you for your body. Think about it, tons of sex, no emotional or intellectual demands and well, lots of sex. Sounds perfect. But not really.
Despite the stereotype that men are beasts and obsessed with sex to the exclusion of anything else, this is an exception rather than the rule. Even so, many men would have you believe this about them because somehow, they’ve fallen into the trap of thinking that their masculinity might be in question if they don’t.
Are men emotional beings?
Men, like other humans, generally crave companionship, love, comfort, conversation, laughter and intellectual stimulation in a relationship. They happen to love sex too. And they don’t even mind having meaningless sex from time to time. Sometimes they like having meaningless sex a lot. But, when it comes down to long-term relationships unless they are thoroughly shallow, completely narcissistic or seriously emotionally damaged, they desire a little bit more than an enthusiastic sexual partner.
Causes of sexual dysfunction.
When a woman makes it clear to her partner that he has no other use to her than a sexual object, it can not only damage his self-esteem but ultimately result in sexual performance problems. Male sexuality is far more fragile than many people believe. All you have to do is look at how many men require medical assistance to either maintain an erection or control premature ejaculation to know the truth. Pressure and stress are two of the biggest factors in male sexual dysfunction. When a guy feels he has to perform on demand or he’ll lose the woman he loves, that’s a sure way to place him under exactly the sort of pressure that can result in a soft penis.
If you’re a man and you have found yourself in this situation, reflect upon how much you’ve worked on communication with your partner. The truth is that she may not be aware of your needs. This is because you haven’t expressed them clearly. Possibly, she feels that by remaining emotionally unavailable but sexually extremely available, you’ll find her more desirable. If it truly is a misunderstanding, a good heart to heart chat about what you both want out of the relationship may be a very simple solution.
Communication is key
On the other hand, you may discover that she really is just not that into you. In which case, if you really are looking for a serious and committed long-term relationship, you have the opportunity to pick up your pride and move on. Don’t make the mistake of hanging on to the belief that you will change her. That will only lead to heartache even though you might get a lot of hot sex along the way. Only you can decide if it’s worth it. The truth is that men feel heartbreak just as much as women, sometimes even more deeply because society expects them to bottle up their emotions. If you really do want a life partner, be smart. Don’t let your dick lead you to a broken heart.
Only you can decide if it’s worth it. The truth is that men feel heartbreak just as much as women. Sometimes even more deeply. And it’s because society expects them to bottle up their emotions. If you really do want a life partner, be smart. Don’t let your penis lead you to a broken heart.