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Mindy Kaling has given us so many reasons to love her over the years – but she isn’t done yet!

The Oceans 8 star and new mama (she gave birth to daughter Katherine Kaling in December!) did what so many are afraid to do and spoke about what it’s really like to be a single mother.

Mindy Kaling gave an extremely heartfelt commencement speech at Dartmouth College at the weekend, and along with the obligatory belly-laughs she gave the audience (naturally) she also got a little bit deeper too…

“I will tell you a personal story,” she began.

“After my daughter was born in December, I remember bringing her home and being in my house with her for the first time and thinking, ‘Huh. According to movies and TV, this is traditionally the time when my mother and spouse are supposed to be here, sharing this experience with me.’ And I looked around, and I had neither. And for a moment, it was kind of scary. Like, ‘Can I do this by myself?’

“But then, that feeling went away, because the reality is, I’m not doing it by myself. I’m surrounded by family and friends who love and support me. And the joy I feel from being with my daughter Katherine eclipses anything from any crazy checklist.

“So I just want to tell you guys, don’t be scared if you don’t do things in the right order, or if you don’t do some things at all. I didn’t think I’d have a child before I got married, but hey, it turned out that way, and I wouldn’t change a thing. I didn’t think I’d have dessert before breakfast today, but hey, it turned out that way and I wouldn’t change a thing.”

Dessert before breakfast – a woman after our own hearts. We digress…

“So if I could impart any advice, it’s this: If you have a checklist, good for you. Structured ambition can sometimes be motivating. But also, feel free to let it go. Yes, my culminating advice from my speech is a song from the Disney animated movie, Frozen.

“I’ve covered a lot of ground today, not all of it was serious, but I wanted to leave you with this: I was not someone who should have the life I have now, and yet I do.

“Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something, but especially not yourself. Go conquer the world. Just remember this: Why not you? You made it this far.”

We knew there was a reason we were obsessed with this woman. From The Office to The Mindy Project to Oceans 8 to her writing work to just being a badass single mother, Mindy Kaling can do no wrong in our eyes.

We really encourage taking 17 minutes out of your day (it’s Monday, so you really need this – trust us!) and listening to the commencement speech in its entirety. Her advice to men going on dates is not to be missed!