Men love when women suck their penises. So if you love pleasing your partner, having a great blow job technique is a guaranteed way to do that. Giving head is not and should not be seen as a chore or something to save for birthdays. It should be a normal part of every couple’s sexual repertoire. Whether as a means to a happy ending or as foreplay, doing it for both of your pleasure is very important. If your partner thinks you aren’t enjoying it or are rushing and trying to get it over with, it’s probably not even worth starting.

Your mouth is an erogenous zone as much as his penis is. But even more than that, your mind is where all your turn-ons begin. The truth is that even if you think you don’t or won’t like sucking penis, act like you do. There’s no better application for the saying ‘fake it till you make it’ then when giving head. It’s amazing how throwing yourself into the role with enthusiasm can be hugely arousing and get you really into it. There are also things that can make it much more pleasurable for you. So, let him know that you want to enjoy going down on him. And for that to happen he needs to be clean and tidy down there.

Start slow and make sure you’re comfortable and can take your time. Blow jobs themselves aren’t just foreplay, they are a very sexual act. So, there should be foreplay leading up to oral sex. Use your mouth on other parts of his body. Make out and kiss. Suck his nipples and undress him. Both of you will be in the mood and relaxed.

Use your tongue to tease him a bit, but not too much. Lick his shaft from base to tip. Spend some time on his balls, taking them into your mouth gently, licking and kissing them. When you’re ready to take him into your mouth, make eye contact with him and let him hear that you enjoy it. Moaning is a huge turn on for guys while they are receiving head.

Don’t forget that a blow job is not just something you do with your mouth. Use your hands on him and on yourself. One of the best ways to teach yourself to really love having his penis in your mouth is to masturbate. Get yourself off at the same time. But don’t be selfish with your hands. Use them to touch and cup his nut sack. Also pay special attention to the sensitive area between his balls and his anus. A gentle massage in this area is likely to send him right over the edge. If he’s not too prudish, you could even play with his ass a little bit, inserting your well lubed finger and stroking his prostate. When guys get over their anxieties about their butts and discover that you can do this little trick, they often think you have magical powers.

In the midst of all this, do not fall into the trap of an up and down and in and out blow job. There are so many fun things you can do with a rock-hard penis in your mouth. You can swirl your tongue around the knob. You can flick that unbelievably sensitive piece of skin between the head and shaft with the tip of your tongue. And you can dip in and out of the hole at the end of the penis and you can practice getting them as far down your throat without gagging as possible. If you do gag don’t worry.

The more slurpy, slappy, wet noises you make when sucking him, the more he’ll get off on it. In fact, make sure that there is a ton of saliva and that your mouth is very wet. This helps to lubricate his penis so that you can masturbate the shaft with your hand while sucking on him and also feels really good for him.

While you don’t want to rush to the finish line, you also want him to believe you’re really into it. The more he thinks you love doing what you’re doing, the more aroused he will be. This is particularly important at the end, when he comes. If you are using a condom, don’t just end it and act like the deposit he’s just made in it is disgusting. Gently remove the condom with your mouth or hands and make it a sexy part of the process. If you are not using a condom, try not to be a spitter and if you do have to be a spitter, try to do it discreetly.

Nothing is as much of a come down from a really intimate sexual experience than thinking your partner is disgusted by something you do naturally. If you’re going to let him come outside of your mouth, have a little bit of fun with it. Rub it into your lips, or nipples. Let him know you find his cum a turn on. If you’re going to swallow, make it visual if you really want to end on the perfect note of ultimate hotness for him. Lick your lips or let him see his sperm on your tongue.

A blow job may be a part of your foreplay and if you do it well, you’ll find that he will want to have harder, longer and more passionate sex. He’ll be so turned on by the time he gets inside you that he’ll hardly be able to control himself. Never forget that when he trusts the most sensitive part of his body in your mouth, he’s giving you unbelievable power over him. You can give him absolute pleasure or absolute pain. So, make sure he knows how much you appreciate that and you’ll find that he appreciates you that much more.