So you’re dating a shy woman?  Great!  Shy women can be a huge turn on. However, because they’re shy, they may not be as sexually adventurous as you’d like when it comes to bedroom fun.

Sex is, of course, an important part of any healthy romantic relationship. Your partner, shy or not, is going to be interested in pleasing you sexually. This tells you that she’s going to be at least somewhat receptive to new ideas.


The main thing though, is that you’ve got to broach the subject the right way.  The fastest way to turn a shy woman off is to surprise her with a new dildo. Or buy her a pair of edible panties and suggest that she put them on.

Don’t misunderstand, you can get her interested in both of those ideas, but you’ve got to go about it the right way.  You’ve got to ease her into the idea.  Turn it into a game and take it in stages.

Here’s an example.

Say  you want to take her to an “Adult Toy Store,” buy her a dildo and watch her play with herself.

If you just blurt that idea out, a shy woman will most likely be mortified and shut down.

On the other hand, the next time you’re going down on her, if you ask her to hold herself open so you have more room to play, she’ll probably be okay with that.

Once you’ve gotten her comfortable with that idea, you can up the ante, telling her how hot it would be if you could watch her touching her clit with her fingers while you’re licking her.

She’ll probably be okay with that in the moment. And once she sees how much you like it, that’ll help her get more comfortable with the idea.  Before you know it, you’ll be able to start kissing her and whisper in her ear that you want to watch her touch herself, and she will!  She’ll have crossed a new threshold in sexual adventurism!

Once you’ve started down that road, it’s easy enough to continue, but again, you’ll want to take it in stages.

Suggesting sex toys

From there, you can suggest that, while it’s super-hot to watch her pleasing herself with her fingers. It’d be even hotter to watch her use a toy, and offer to look for one with her online.


Let her pick one out she likes (from the safety of home) and order it.  Then start by using it on her, slowly coaxing her to take control over it.

How quickly or slowly all this happens depends on the person, of course, but you get the idea.  Go slow.  Take it in stages.  Introduce her to new ideas that push her boundaries in small steps, and before you know it, she’ll embrace them and make them her own, especially when she sees how much it’s turning you on.

It won’t be long before she’s eager to head to that adult toy shop with you and make a few selection, secure in the knowledge that you’re going to love it when the two of you get home!