There are people who will swear that redheads are the best. Some even refer to them as real-life unicorns. Are they really? It’s no wonder quite a number of women usually dye their hair into a rich red. And you know what, they love every minute of the attention that they get. So why all that attention? Can people come up with actual reasons to back the statement that redheads are the real deal?

Well, here are some of the reasons why you need to consider going ‘ginger’. Read on…

Why choose a redhead?

Some time back, redheads were not considered to be on the competing plane when it comes to the “who is better” question. It always used to be a contest between the blondes and the brunettes. Well, it seems like that argument has officially been settled. And guess who won the day, apparently scientifically? That redhead that has been ignored for quite a while turned out to have the upper hand in this debate.

You don’t believe it? Well, let’s take a look at some of the facts that support the facts that will begin to show you why redheads are better than blondes and brunettes… and why you should probably consider turning into a ‘fake’ one lol…

They have genetic superpowers

The genetics surrounding the redheads are some of the main reasons why people regard them as the “unicorns of the human world”. One of the facts that has made them garner that title is because they are rare – 2 percent of the population. Besides that, they are different in so many ways scientifically. Besides being rare, let’s talk about some of these generic superpowers they possess and other amazing facts that keep emerging about redheads.

They produce their own Vitamin D

If you are a redhead, then you have heard the joke that redheads could burn even under a shade. Nothing negative about the joke. Apparently, the concentration of red hair and pale skin made redheads, especially from the European countries adapt to the cloudy weather conditions and gained a greater ability to create their own vitamin D. Redheads are the best because they do not need to go outside to get that vitamin D. They create it.

So the reason why redheads are better than blondes is that they have the ability to fight things like Ricketts better. When they go outside, they absorb it even faster. And because low vitamin D leads to illnesses like diabetes, asthma, or arthritis, redheads are less likely to develop them. What an evolutionary advantage!

They are a tough breed

After mentioning that they have genetic superpowers, this shouldn’t come as a surprise. Apparently, their tolerance to pain levels is higher by up to 25 percent than that of other hair colors. The way they react to and handle pain is totally different. They even feel less pain when pricked. Spicy food, bring it on. According to some studies, it required 20% more general anesthesia to put the ginger under during surgery. If they are harder to sedate, I wonder how many gallons of alcohol they can down

This could be the reason why redheads are adventurous, in bed that is. They are more likely to be into BDSM.

They age gracefully

Look at Scarlett Johansson. How about Prince Harry. What makes them so ageless… They still look like they did when they were in their 20’s right? One thing they have in common is their red hair. Redheads have a gene called the gene MC1R gene, which is responsible for their ginger hair. That said, the same gene has a variant that keeps some of these redheads looking much younger than others. According to studies, redheads usually look like they have shed 2 years off their skins.

Besides the skin appearing two years younger, the level of pigmentation in their hair also works to their favor. Red hair tends to retain its color for longer than all other shades of hair. So their hair doesn’t drastically go grey. It will often fade to a blonde before graying.

Apparently, most people think they are funnier

So I am just going to put it as a question for you to think about. When you think of circus clowns, which color usually comes to mind? Yap a brightly red-colored wig and a pale face. All this depiction of clowns as redheads began in the 19th century. Well, the idea behind the brightness of the wig was not about them looking funny. It was so that people at the back could see them. So red became the color of choice.

That idea of the red-haired clown became embedded into people so much so that even today, people associate the red hair of redheads with clowns. So when one meets a redhead, they automatically assume that they are funny as hell. That could be another reason why people are so smitten by them.

They are more sensitive to changes in temperatures

Redheads feel the changes in temperature more rapidly than other people with different hair colors. This is because of the redhead gene, MC1R. It usually makes the temperature-detecting gene in humans to become overreactive. This is what makes redheads more sensitive to sudden changes in temperature. So if a redhead says they are chilly when you are leaving the house, better go grab that snowsuit because it means it’s going to be bloody cold. Their sense of temperature is very accurate.

So why choose a redhead? Well, you are just about to find out why next…

They have more, better sex

Well, one of the things about redheads that emerged recently is that redheads are the best at sex. Besides being great at it, they are also having more of it. Now, this isn’t just some hearsay stuff. There is some scientific stuff to back this. Actually, the ‘having more sex’ bit is scientific. Plus they are better at it, thanks to their genetic makeup and physical characteristics.

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There are those selfish friends who only know how to take from a relationship instead of giving. These are the kind of people who only think about themselves. Everything has to be about them. Everything has to be centered around themselves. So basically, you find yourself spending more time, energy, attention, even money on their needs. Unfortunately, all that is never reciprocal. 

So how is one meant to handle inconsiderate friends? Scroll on as we tackle this head-on!

Dealing with a self centred friend

A lot of people don’t know how to spot a selfish friendship. Well, it usually  isn’t easy especially when the friend is manipulative. Initially, most such friends seem genuinely interested in your life. You might even believe that they are good friends. Then the moment you start talking about your life, they immediately go on and on about their lives. They might even call you and ask how you are only to turn the whole conversation around and talk about how they are instead. There are times you could be needing something but instead they talk about what they need instead.

On the other hand, people who are empathetic are those whose feelings and thoughts were valued and respected since childhood. So selfish friends are are not born, they’re made. Compassionate and thoughtful people are made too. So if people around you cared less about you, you kind of grow up having to take care of you.

Well, let’s talk about dealing with a self centred friend

1. Avoid calling out their selfishness

Trying to change a selfish friend can really backfire on you. Now, it makes sense that the easiest way to deal with selfishness is to raise this up with your friend. One thing you need to understand and accept is that after someone has lived lie that since childhood until adulthood, changing them can be really hard. They can only change if they realize their own behavior and choose to consciously change. Much as you can tell them how their behavior makes you feel, turning them isn’t something you can do. We are who we are or who we are raised to be.

Half the time, those people who constantly talk about themselves don’t even realize how annoying they are. They only think about themselves. So how do we even expect them to be in a position to pick up other people’s social cues? This means, talking about their self-centeredness wont be taken well. Selfish people tend o feel victimized when they are called out on… especially if its the first time they are hearing of it for the first time. So if you are thinking my friend is selfish, keep it to yourself. Directly confronting their selfish behavior will just stir up unproductive conflict.

2. Set boundaries

Wondering how to deal with selfish friends?  Well, one thing people never realize is that you can’t control other people’s actions. But you can have control of your own. So set boundaries for yourself as opposed to reacting to the actions of inconsiderate friends.

For instance, if a friend is not showing up or being there for you, ask for some balance. That said, you need to prepare yourself for the possibility that they won’t really meet you half-way. So check yourself. If someone isn’t able or willing to meet your needs, don’t force things.

3. Sometimes silence does the trick

There are those times when radio silence is the answer you need to how to deal with bad friends. Now, much as being ghosted in a relationship isn’t sound relationship advice sometimes its the best way to deal with a selfish friend. When you stop giving them all your time and energy, after a while, they will get it. It might not happen overnight but if you keep at it, some change might happen… only if they want it to. That is why I used the word ‘sometimes’. It is not a given solution.

When you have a selfish person as a friend, people will understand why you might not want to spend time with them. So it will make sense if you don’t want to spend too much time with a self-centered, poor listener. One thing is that after a while, they will realize that somehow, they either don’t have as many friends, or that they are losing friends. They might start wondering why all that is happening. Anyway, let’s hope your ghosting will make them feel lonely and seek help to change their ways.

4. Break things off if you feel its too much

If you are lucky and you notice some selfish behavior early in a friendship, you need to take it seriously especially if its bothering you. Sometimes, being optimistic about it isn’t going to be helpful at all. Some behaviors are hard to just change. So if you can’t stand it, its better to just let the relationship go before you invest too much.

If the relationship has been going on for a while and you suddenly start picking up on things that are selfish about your friend, if you are the emotionally intelligent one, try being accepting and compassionate about your friend.

5. Stop being a people pleaser

There are those instances where we are the ones who enable the behavior of our selfish friends. Now much as you cannot be blamed for your friends’ selfish behavior you need to check yourself and make sure that you are not the one fueling that behavior. You need to check the urge to please people. So if you find that you are stuck in give-give-give relationship dynamic, then you need to ask yourself what you are getting out of the relationship.

Is it love that you are trying to love by giving and pleasing people? If you are going out of your way to give and its draining you, then you are enabling the other person become a taker. In a healthy relationship, you should be able to also get what you need. There are instances where its not that your friend is selfish. You are probably just afraid to ask.

But if your friend is really a taker, try and set some boundaries. Don’t be afraid of rejection. Sometimes saying “no” is just all that is needed. Check your self and only say “yes” to things that you really want to do. If you are saying “yes” out of fear of resentment, then your answer needs to be a “no”.

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The killing of George Floyd by a white police officer was a clear indication that America is still struggling with racism and that people should unite for change. See, with the rise in interracial marriage and relationships, someone would think that people are becoming more accepting and more tolerant towards people of other races. Well, I too wanted to believe that we have grown as a nation. That we are a real melting pot. Clearly, I was wrong.

Love is All Colors examines the race relations in America today and why it is important that we make some changes as well as things that need to change. Scroll on as I shed some light on this sensitive issue…

Why America must come together

Last month Joe Biden sadly admitted just how much he and most white Americans have been wrong about racism in America when he spoke with voters in a live stream, “Young Americans Town Hall” saying: “I thought we had made enormous progress when we finally elected an African American president. I thought you could defeat hate, you could kill hate. But the point is, you can’t.” 

The thing is, with the rise of the number of immigrants as well as more interracial marriages, most Americans believe that they have no prejudice in their bones. Because they can stand their friends and families mixed relationships, they don’t see themselves as racists. Because they can interact with people of other races and have friends from other races, they believe that they are not racists.

Sadly this is not the case.

What most of us proclaim with our mouths isn’t exactly what we really feel inside. Subconsciously, most of us still have that racist bone in us. This is the reason why, when some white person meets a black man in an alley, they will clutch their purses, freeze or run in fear. We are still very prejudiced and stereotypical people. This is what needs to change in America.

We need  to awaken to our own naiveté

For us to truly unite for change, we first need to take off the masks that most of us have been hiding behind. We need to awaken and accept the fact that America’s race relations still have a long way to go. I am sure I am not alone. I am sure Joe Biden is not the only person experiencing the awakening that we indeed are racist. This is why incidents like that of George Floyd keep happening. This is why even in Hollywood, people of different races are treated differently. Minorities tend to be sidelined when it comes to receiving Awards nominations as well as when it comes to getting their roles.

George Floyd killing by a white police officer showed the world just how much hate we harbor for one another. It was an agonizing 8 minutes and 46 seconds that was really had to watch… a person putting a knee on the other person’s neck until there is no more breath left in them. We are racist and we must come together as American people. It was very shameful especially during this time of COVID-19 when we really need to watch each other’s backs and come together as people.

2020 riots and fight for justice

There was a lot of differing 2020 riots opinion. But one thing that really shocked the world, was the fact that even states like Utah and West Virginia, which have overwhelmingly white populations also conducted multiple protests. The sales of some books like “How to be an Antiracist” and “White Fragility” shot. Some blacks admitted to having been shocked and overwhelmed by the support they received from their white friends – some even sending monetary support. America must unite in such a manner to stop injustices that are fueled by racism.

Lots of corporations as well as food makers in the U.S. rallied behind the “Black Lives Matter”  campaigns. Now, much as even whites carried placards written “Black Lives Matter”, there were still 2020 riots opinion that was differing. Some still kept hailing that white lives also matter too. Some still remained in the “All Lives Matter” camp.

Well, “All Lives Matter” has never been taken positively especially by Black Americans who keep suffering racial injustices under the hands of white policemen. It’s like being Black in America is a crime on its one. One has to keep looking over their shoulders. And this is the reason why America must come together and grieve with the families of those victimized and listen to the grievances voiced through peaceful protests. It is important to fundamentally understand black lives matter and why we need to all rally behind it. Enough with racial injustices. We need to focus more on police reforms as well as the reversal of systemic racism.

Challenging the anti-riot laws in 2020

A riot is defined as disruptive gatherings that pose an immediate danger to people and property. This is the definition given by the anti-riot laws. The big question is: What danger constitutes an immediate danger? Well, clearly that is something that is left to the interpretation of police officers.

We unite for change because it is very dangerous when the interpretation of what constitutes an immediate danger is solely left to the hands of the police officers. And this has often seen an over-exaggeration of circumstances whenever there is a protest. They sometimes end up arresting and victimizing non-violent protesters. Even when one person so much as throws a bottle, everyone who participated in the riot gets arrested. Unfortunately, most such arrests happen to colored people violating their First and Fourth Amendment rights.

Such broad and opaque nature of the anti-riot laws in why we must come together as American people in order to fight the constitutional violations of these laws. This is because the police exploit the vagueness of these laws by silencing, intimidating, and arresting people peacefully campaigning for a better America. We saw the victimization of nonviolent protesters marching in memory of George Floyd. Even in the fight against police brutality, they still faced aggression and uncalled for arrests.

We all need to take action

We all need to unite for change if we are to make America great again. We all need to rise up against social, economic, and constitutional injustices against people of all races. When it comes to race matters, we are always talking about injustices against people of color. Much as we there might be some injustices done on white people, there are those who sometimes feel like it serves them right – that they also need to experience first hand what people of color usually have to go through. Maybe this is the reason that some people advocate for the “All Lives Matter” movement.

Now, much as minorities are the ones who suffer most, this is the kind of backward mentality that we American’s need to change. Yes. Most minorities are victimized when it comes to opportunities too, for instance, Hollywood jobs and awards. Now most of us are campaigning for equality. Most of us Americans want there to be the kind of change where minorities are given a fair chance and their talents recognized. Does this mean than now, we deny a talented white person a spot just because we have to give a minority a spot? Should we now come up with all-colored people movies that have no white people roles in them?

The 2020 elections

The thing America must unite. And racial unity is the way to go. We need to start movements that push for the real representation of all people regardless of race. We need to push for policies that promote equity and equality for all. Policies that push for social, economic, political, and constitutional justice for all people despite race, religion, or sexual orientation. 

This year’s elections will be driven by race relations especially after different politicians took different stands after the George Floyd murder as well as the protests that followed. Like Hillary Clinton in 2016, Biden is supporting Black Lives Matter activists. Remember what happened to that election? Most white voters alienated Hillary Clinton. Now, much as Biden’s support for Black Lives Matter could also alienate some white voters, the overwhelming support that a considerable number of white people showed during the protests against the George Floyd killing gives us some hope. That’s a positive sign that this year, things might be different.

We can all begin to take action right now and just where you are. We can begin working towards healing the historical wounds of injustices and not allow these wounds to keep scabbing all over America, infecting how the future generations relate to one another. I believe this is something that all Americans can push for.

Let’s give protestors a voice and an ear because, through protests, ordinary Americans make huge differences. Let all Americans have the right to speak up about their rights and what they believe in. Let us stop police brutality against peaceful protests that will push for change that will unite Americans in the future.

So let’s unite for change. Let America be an example to the world where racial justice is preached and practiced. 

American’s have been fighting injustices for years. One such great American was Jim Crow. Follow the link and read this article about “Why Millennials Should Know About Jim Crow“

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Congratulations to Katy Perry, as she has revealed that she is pregnant with her first child!

This will be the first child for the 35-year-old Firework singer, and the second child for fiancé Orlando Bloom. He shares 9-year-old son Flynn with ex-wife Miranda Kerr.

Katy Perry being Katy Perry didn’t do things by halves with her announcement. She revealed her pregnancy in the most spectacular way, by cradling her baby bump in the music video for her brand new song, Never Worn White.

After the music video made its debut at midnight, the expectant mother took to Instagram to confirm the news with her loyal KatyCats…

“There’s a lot that will be happening this summer,” Katy said on Instagram.

“Not only will I be giving birth, literally, but also figuratively to something you guys have been waiting for. So let’s just call it a double whammy. It’s a two-for.

“I am excited. We’re excited and happy and it’s probably the longest secret I’ve ever had to keep.

“And I like to tell you guys everything but I knew I would tell you in the best way, which is through a piece of music because that’s… I guess that’s how I speak to you. That’s how we speak together to each other.”

We couldn’t agree more!

You can watch the video for Never Worn White below. Was it the perfect way to announce her pregnancy?

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Meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time, especially when you are in an interracial relationship can be a bit scary. No matter how convincing the boyfriend is about the parents’ openness and acceptance to your interracial relationship people always find themselves having jitters. Much as your boyfriend might be confident about this big move there are those parents who usually seem OK with their kids having friends from other races and then draw the line when it comes to dating. So if this is his first interracial relationship, then I would understand why the thought of meeting boyfriend’s parents can be scary.

That said, read on Love is All Colors about these ways that I have compiled on how to avoid making errors during the first meeting.

What meeting his parents is really like

Interracial couples potentially have it harder because of the cultural differences involved.  There is probably the food that might be something you have never tried,  unfamiliar customs. Now, this isn’t my way of discouraging you. It doesn’t always go south. However, you need to prepare yourself just in case because some of these differences can drive a wedge between you and the family.

Some people’s cultures can be quite conservative. For instance, for some people, meeting boyfriend’s parents is as good as an engagement announcement and a promise of a wedding in the near future. So you need to know how to deal with conservative parents to prepare yourself for any cultural pitfalls.

Much as we have different races and cultures in the world some folks still have preconceived stereotypical opinions about other people’s cultures. So when meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time you need to be prepared for such a scenario. Here are some ways to be ready for this.

Ask your lover to talk to his family first

Wondering how to deal with conservative parents? The best way to go about it is to ask your boyfriend to have a talk with them and convincing them beforehand as opposed to just ambushing them. If for instance, they have never had an experience with you dating interracially, or expect him to date or marry someone within their race, it might take them longer to warm up to the idea of meeting you. This is expected with older family members.

Ask your significant other to meet with his family without your accompanying him first to confront their discrimination and discuss how all this makes both of you feel. Decide when to meet the parents and make sure they are expecting both of you.

Prepare

Getting to know a little about the values and traditions of your boyfriend can go a long way when it’s time to meet your family. Make sure you and your boyfriend cover the important bases. For instance, talk about what to wear when meeting his parents. Some parents might not consider that little black dress to be appropriate for family gatherings.

The other thing to discuss is how much affection is appropriate and where you will sleep in case you are spending the night. Some families might take public displays of affection as disrespectful.

Make sure he tells you about how introductions go about, meals and prayers. If you are going to meet them on a special day, find out how the ceremonies are conducted. Remember the way you do their things is the way they do theirs. Respect their cultural customs.

Educate yourself

Most times a little bit of education and sincerity can soften even the toughest and most conservative family members. It shows a caring side. Everyone wants their culture and traditions respected. For some couples, the biggest challenge of being in an interracial relationship is getting your loved one’s family to like and accept you.

So ask your boyfriend about the things that are meaningful to his family and try to understand their family dynamics. Learn as much as you can in order to be more understanding. The more you make an effort to understand how and why they approach situations as they do, the more you’ll understand their perspective. If they speak a different language, learn simple things like “hi”, “how are you”, “nice to meet you”, “thank you” etc

Food is something that most cultures value. Ask him about their food culture and accustom yourself to some of the tastes before meeting your boyfriend’s family. The thing is, in time, all this will grow on you.

Speaking of food, there are some cultures don’t drink alcohol every time they are having dinner. Find out what is normal for his family and adjust before you meet them.

Don’t make assumptions

When you decide when to meet the parents of your interracial boyfriend, steer clear from making assumptions. Just because you have heard stories here and there about the Latinos for instance, there are millions of them in the world. So please don’t generalize. Trust me, you can never be accurate when you decide to go down this route.

Instead, ask your boyfriend about their personal and family values and traditions so that you can learn from their own experience. Making generalized statements meeting his parents can be very rude, especially if they don’t live their lives that way. Also when deciding on what to wear when meeting his parents, ask him if they have a particular dress code for that lest you end up looking overdressed and like a clown in case, they are a modern family.

The thing is not to assume or turn to Google for an answer. Just tell them what you think about their culture and ask them to tell you as much as they can to prepare you for the visit.

Expect judgment from some of the family members

When you meet the family you might have to deal with silent whispers or judgment that might not be that silent. There are those that might just come right out and voice their opinions. This usually happens if you are the first interracial date being introduced to the family. Your boyfriend might be hearing comments about how he is making the wrong decision dating you.

Have a code word

Sometimes, the best way to deal with this is to have a code word for when things get uncomfortable. So feel free to text the code word to your boyfriend. This will mean that things are getting overwhelmingly uncomfortable and awkward for you. Don’t change too much to please them.

If the conversation isn’t going so well, use the code word so that you can have a private moment with your partner on how to better handle the situation.

Count your losses

Sometimes, meeting your boyfriend’s family can go south. You need to be aware that it is hard to change family members’ opinions. So it will be up to them to be inclusive or divisive.

First off, don’t try to make a big deal out of it or stress over it. Do not make a fuss over it during your first visit over how much his family has not accepted you. Build up a united front instead. The thing is, pointing it out too much might even make you end the greatest thing that ever happened to you.

Your partner might be forced to choose

Your partner may have been able to sit with his family and explained how much your relationship is important. He might have told them that even if they had strong opinions about your relationship, they need to respect his choice.

But if the family becomes too hostile and is against you meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time, then your partner might have to make some tough decisions. To stop the relationship or to stand by you and choose to continue this relationship.

Whatever decision he makes, he needs to make them aware of how hurtful being put in a position where he has to choose is.

Don’t take it personally

If meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time doesn’t go as smoothly as you might have expected, don’t sweat it. People tend to fear or be skeptical about the unknown. A little getting to know you more might change their perception eventually.

If you care about your relationship and they still don’t warm up to you, these family members can come between the two of you. But it only depends on how strong your relationship is. So if your partner doesn’t stand by you and defend you when you meet the family that turns out to be hostile, then its probably time to re-evaluate whether to continue with the relationship or not. This is something that you shouldn’t brush off.

Remember the challenges that interracial couples go through can sometimes be magnified by the lack of acceptance. If it doesn’t work out, don’t beat your self up. If they are not open-minded, understand that people are different. Treat them with kindness during the visit and walk away peacefully.

Read this article on the challenges that this woman, Jocelyn, encountered when meeting the family of her interracial love.

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Is Lauren London dating Diddy?

Rumor has it that Lauren London, who was dating 33-year-old rapper Nipsey Hussle before he was shot dead outside his Los Angeles clothing store in March last year, is now dating Sean ‘Diddy’ Combs. But how true are those rumors?

Diddy posted a picture of himself and Lauren at the Roc Nation brunch on his Instagram Story, which is what initially started the speculation that something might be going on between them.

“More Lost Files… Me & My Sister @LaurenLondon @rocnation brunch,” he wrote on his Instagram Story, alongside a picture of himself with Lauren.

He also reportedly a shared a few black and white shots of the two of them, but they have since been deleted.

However, Lauren London has made it clear that nothing is going on between her and Diddy – or anyone else for that matter – as Nipsey Hussle still has her heart…

“Still His! King Ermias! Never Forget!” the 35-year-old wrote on Instagram, alongside a picture of the late rapper.

“I’m all love and peace but never forget… I’m a woman in grief and I don’t play about Nip, my family, my character and code,” she continued.

“Stop f–kin playing with me and my name. Now let me get back to healing.”

Diddy hasn’t commented on the rumors, but he has removed the pictures of himself with Lauren.

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Rihanna already seems to have moved on from billionaire Hassan Jameel, her boyfriend of almost three years.

According to reports, she is secretly dating none other than A$AP Rocky! (But the reports are all we have to go on at the moment, as Rihanna is very private about her love life, so we doubt we’re going to get anything official from her any time soon.)

So what do we know?

Rihanna and the 31-year-old rapper are officially dating, if we are to believe some alleged insiders, but they are taking things slow. It apparently all started on a recent trip to the Big Apple…

“They shared a hotel suite during that trip in New York,” a source told British tabloid, The Sun.

“However, Rihanna is reluctant to put a label on it as it’s so soon after Hassan. But they’re really enjoying each other’s company and taking things easy as it’s still early days.

“It’s really casual between them and she’s not thinking about whether there’s a future with Rocky. She’s a newly-single girl having fun.”

The rapper has previously dated Kendall and Kylie Jenner, Iggy Azalea, Rita Ora, and model Chanel Iman, among many, many others.

Neither Rihanna not A$AP Rocky have addressed the rumors, but there’s no denying that they have been spending a lot of time together recently.

They were hanging out at the Yams Day Benefit concert in Brooklyn, New York, last week. And they looked particularly cozy at the British Fashion Awards last month…

They were previously linked back in 2013, when they were spotted kissing behind the scenes of the Fashion Killa music video.

If the rumours are true, do you think that Rihanna and A$AP Rocky make a good couple?

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Congratulations to Michelle Obama, as the former First Lady is now the proud owner of a Grammy!

Is there anything she can’t do?

Michelle Obama won the accolade in the ‘Spoken Word Album’ category for the audio recording of her bestselling memoir, Becoming. (It was the best-selling hardcover book of 2018, so we’re not really surprised by this victory!)

In the 2018 memoir, Michelle Obama talks about her childhood, growing up in Chicago, and her life leading up to the 2008 election which saw husband Barack Obama become the first black President of the United States.

She is the second First Lady in history to win a Grammy. Hillary Clinton was the first, when she won the ‘Best Spoken Word Album’ award in 1997 for her book, It Takes A Village.

The Obama trophy cabinet now has a total of three Grammys, as Barack Obama has also won two Grammys – one in 2006 for Dreams From My Father, and another in 2008, for his book The Audacity of Hope.

Despite attending last year’s ceremony, Michelle Obama did not attend Sunday night’s Grammys. However, Esperanza Spalding, who won a Grammy for ‘Best Jazz Vocal album’, accepted the award on her behalf.

Congratulations, again!

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Christmas has come early for Chanel Iman, as she has just given birth to her second child!

The 29-year-old Victoria’s Secret model and her 26-year-old New York Giants star husband, Sterling Shepard, have welcomed their second baby into the world – a little girl called Cassie Snow Shepard.

Earlier this month, Chanel told the world that she was expecting a girl, which she announced during her all-white winter wonderland themed baby shower.

The beaming new parents shared the happy news with an adorable snap on social media.

“Our Christmas gift came early,” Chanel Iman wrote on Instagram, alongside a picture of her beautiful family in the hospital.

“Cassie Snow Shepard 12•17•19.”

Chanel and her husband are already proud parents to daughter Cali Clay, who they welcomed in August 2018. They tied the knot in March 2018, after meeting at Victor Cruz’s 30th birthday party back in 2016.

And just like Cali Clay, Cassie Snow already has her very own Instagram page if you can believe it! A social media influencer already in the making? Perhaps…

Congratulations to Chanel and the family!

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Learning to be a submissive when having sex can take your sex life to a whole new level and experience inconceivable sex. Whether its sexual role play or just trying something new to spice things up, if done right, it can really make one explore their sexuality in a safe and enjoyable way. Power is a very strong aphrodisiac… and so is submission and total surrender. And we can see all this from the way the modern culture and Bondage, Domination, Sadism, Masochism – BSDM – books and movies. Well, so long as all this is happening between two consenting adults, I say go for it.

Read on and find out what I learned about submission, bondage and how you can stay safe as you explore the wild side of your sexuality…

How you can have kinkier sex by learning how to be a submissive in a relationship

I can be quite bossy in the bedroom. So one day, I figured… Why not shake things up a little…? So I decided it was about time to relinquish control sexually. So I started learning to be a submissive in a relationship. And after reading about submission and how to be submissive to a dom, the thought of giving up control got my sexual juices flowing.

The thing is: submission is a very common sexual fantasy. So if you have been thinking about it, you are not weird. One advice I would like to give is, before putting yourself at the mercy of someone, do your research about and learn about dom sub basics.

Studies have shown that couples who have kinky sex tend to have incredible sex. And from my experience, learning to be a submissive opened up a whole new world for me. For me, being ordered around, being tied up and being spanked and coerced to do some stuff gave me such a thrill. We also used to switch things up and I would do the same to my boyfriend and he would really love it.

If you are new to it, don’t go full-on leather and whips. It was a bit hard trying to be someone’s b*tch in bed at first. But after a while, I was surprised just how much I got into it. And believe it or not, if you take it slow, your dude will enjoy it too. My submission made my dude feel like a real man. And it made me feel like a real woman.

Now if your guy isn’t dominating you already, ask him to. When I was learning to be submissive, one thing that was clear is that the lines of communication need to be open. Tell him that you’d like to try something new. Express your desire to be dominated in bed. It doesn’t have to be a huge conversation. Just drop a simple “I’d like to be dominated in bed”.

The one thing I learned about learning to be a submissive in a relationship is that submission is pretty natural for women… especially if you want to be submissive. Trust and willingness to do this are important to submission. Plus, if his idea for kinky sex isn’t your cup of tea do not compromise. Only agree to what works for you.

Power exchange is one of the best dominant submissive ideas I learned. So I once suggested that I tie him up. Plus, it doesn’t have to be the “tying him up” if he is not into it. Asking him not to let go of the headboard turned out to be so much fun for us… and super orgasmic. And you know what, we never get tired of talking about what we are going to try out next or what roles we are going to play next…

Dominant submissive ideas to consider

If you are just learning to be a submissive, as I mentioned earlier, BDSM needs to be consensual. And this is because some of these activities can turn out to be a little risky. Want to be submissive? Here are some of the small-time BDSM activities to start you off as you build up to more kinkier sexual activities.

Using senses to arouse

Spanking, tickling, using ice cubes on your woman’s body is a great place to start. Temperature play during oral sex can be very arousing. Allow your partner to either tie your hands to the headboard and let him do you as he pleases. This is called sensory deprivation. The other way to go about it is by being blindfolded. Sensation play can include a little pain like spanking and flogging. Some forms of bondage can be a little painful too.

Roleplay

Here, you act out a role. It’s very common and it can involve costumes and props. You could play the role of a landlord and a tenant who has refused to pay rent and needs to be punished by doing anything sexual that the landlord demands. Don’t be afraid to act out your fantasies.

Sadomasochism

Here is when you let your partner have complete control over you. Plus, the power play can be interchangeable. There is pain and humiliation involved with SM. So make sure you read the bondage dos and don’ts. You will be shocked at how much power and pain can be arousing.

Get your strap on

Now, this is the real kink. It happens when the woman wears a strap on and penetrates the dude. This is pure submission on the dude’s part and it has to be really consensual. If its the first time you need to consider the size. Let it be soft and small and graduate as you move along. And remember to use a lot of lube and to be as gentle as you possibly can.

Dom role play tips

New to a submissive relationship? Well, one thing about role play and these kinds of relationships is that there are no hard rules. In my relationship, when it came to gender, we used to switch the roles. All that we did was make sure that whatever it was that we were getting into, there was mutual consent every step of the way.

Exploring these new sensations of mixing a little pain and pleasure was satisfying. The control and surrender was just amazing. You need to remember that sometimes, it can really get intense and even dangerous for the sub.

Here is a list of some dominant and submissive tips that I learned that made our sexual play safer as well as enjoyable for both of us.

You need to make bondage escapable

If you have watched BSDM porn, then you probably have come across ‘inescapable’ bondage. Please remember that these are actors. And there is probably a number of times when the word “CUT” was yelled out and the actors took a break. When it’s just you and your partner, ‘inescapable’ bondage is not advisable. In the event that things get too intense or something serious and unexpected happens, the sub should be able to slip out of the restrains with ease. Or the sub should be in a position to reach to the restraints and release themselves. Can you imagine a case of a dom having a heart attack or seizure and the sub can’t call for help? Or you accidentally knock a candle with your kink and it is suddenly ablaze? That can be a recipe for tragedy.

There needs to be trust between the dom and the sub

Trust is very important in this kind of relationship. You can’t just decide to ignore the concerns of the sub. The dom needs to show the sub that he really cares about him or her. As Madonna once said, “It’s letting someone hurt you that you know would never hurt you.” The sub should always feel comfortable. And the sub should always trust that when it gets too rough, the dom will stop. Test boundaries with caution especially if you are just learning to be submissive.

Have a safe word

When I was learning to be a submissive, one thing that was emphasized on all the articles about BSDM I was reading was “THE SAFE WORD”. This is a word that a sub can call out when things get too overwhelming or too intense to handle, both physically and emotionally. So when the safe word is uttered, it means STOP and session needs to end.

Now, you have to understand that this needs to be a unique word because when it comes to playing submissive, the unwillingness of the sub is usually part of the role play. So words like “No! Stop” won’t cut it. Saying ‘No’ is normally considered part of BDSM. So get creative and try something odd, like “Blueberry”. And if the play involves gagging, then you should also decide on a “safe gesture “or “safe sound”.

Never inflict actual damage.

A small bruise might not be a cause of alarm. But too rough and hurried anal sex can be too much pain for the sub. And besides the pain it can lead to more serious health issues caused by hemorrhoids to anal fissures. The other thing you need to realize as a sub is that if bondage is too tight, it can cut off circulation or even cause tissue death.

The dom needs to be caring enough to ensure that bound parts aren’t getting numb or cold when touched. One of the submissive tips is when it’s too tight or uncomfortable, speak out. Much as you might want to please the dom, you should also be able to enjoy the experience… not be rushed to hospital in the middle of it all. If you realize that you are getting numb, release the pressure and massage to restore circulation.

The thing is, submission offers a wide range of new and exciting sexual activities that can get you out of your sex rut and into a whole new level of sexual pleasure. Whether it’s trying out kinky acts or it is going full-on BDSM there are several ways to explore and enjoy. Don’t limit your sexuality. Go for what works for you.

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