Have you been asking yourself: Who is Bella Poarch? Did she just pop out of nowhere and into fame? Well, one thing we know for sure is that this young lady is an online sensation. Now you say have seen her on Tik Tok – Barely 20 years old but with over 40 million followers. But do you know much about her?  What does Bella Poarch do and how did she rise into Tik Tok fame?

Well, keep reading as we tell you all you need to know about her.

Why is Bella Poarch famous

Poarch is famous for her hypnotic lip-sync videos. She rose into fame after she posted a zoomed-in video on August 17 of her lip-syncing and bouncing rhythmically. It immediately went viral and in less than a month, garnered the title of the most-liked video on TikTok. That video that was posted about two and a half months now has over 41 million likes and half a billion views.

Mysterious, right? Well, it happened just like that. Her fame and her brand are built around her cuteness, gaming, and lots of other types of content. But like other famous influencers like the likes of Tana Mongeau, Bella Poarch TikTok famous videos have some controversies following her too.

Well let’s answer a few questions about her:

Who is Bella Poarch?

If you want to know about someone, you have to start with the basics. So who is she? Is Bella Poarch even her real name? Well, we will have you know that it is actually her real name. She is 5 feet 2 inches.

How old is Bella Poarch?

Born in the Philippines, on February 8, 2001, Bella Poarch is now 19 years old going on 20. So apparently people have been having doubts about her age because she in the US Navy in 2017. To be enlisted you must be 18 years of age. So does this mean she enlisted when she was 16?

What is her nationality?

Much as she now lives in the US, in Hawaii, as we mentioned above, she was born in the Philippines. This makes her Filipina. She and her family moved to the US when she was 13.

What made Bella Poarch TikTok famous in just months?

Her initial TikTok video wasn’t doing that badly either. Posted on April 10 this year with the caption “Playing online for the first time be like…” it has 1. 5 million likes and 21.7 million views. She is wearing a green gaming headset.

The real rise in fame happened with the lip-sync video. She was trying to diss a track “M to the B” by the artist Millie B. This TikTok creation was shared on 17 August 2020. We think one of the things that made it go viral was those cute facial movements and that chilled out bouncy moves that she was making. Plus, who wouldn’t love that final cute eye roll thing she made?

Tik Tok blew up in a historic way.  As we speak, it is still the most-liked video on TikTok and with the most views. And we will mention again that the video has over 500 million views. No wonder people just keep asking: Who is Bella Poarch? And why do people even care so much about her? Well, now you know why we care. She is a US Navy veteran, barely 20, who blew up TikTok in less than a month!

Up to date, that post continues being the most-liked. A single post that made her rise into fame in a month. There there is of course the haters and the controversies. Besides people wondering how old is Bella Poarch and questioning her age, they started asking: Why is Bella Poarch famous – questioning why it garnered such massive likes.

What is Bella Poarchs profession?

Well, a TikToker in the Navy? Well if you are one of the people wondering What is Bella Poarchs profession, the Navy story is true. She is a US Navy veteran who enlisted in 2017. She has proudly served for 3 years and that fact she clearly states in her Instagram bio.

Did Bella Poarch stop at her viral “M to the B” video?

No! Poarch is making videos, mostly of the gaming kind and the of lip-sync with those facial impressions. She is even making dance challenge videos. There are those where she features a stuffed animal named “Paca.” The thing is, the cuteness in these videos is just amazing. She also uses the TikTok Face Zoom effect.

How much is she worth?

Now that we have answered the question: what does Bella Poarch do, am sure you now really want to know how much she is worth now that she is an internet sensation. Well, at the moment, we are not sure what her net worth is. But once we get the scoop on that, we sure will keep you in the loop.

One thing we know for sure is that she has already started doing collabos with famous artists like Tyga. On these videos, shared in September, it appears that they were filmed at Tyga’s mansion. The pair are lip-syncing to some of Tyga’s tracks.

Then of course you would expect some rumors about the duo getting a bit too close after doing the collabos.  Well as is, no rumors have been confirmed. Plus, Bella seems not to be dating anyone publicly.

The  controversies

We can’t answer the who is Bella Poarch question without talking about her controversial Japan’s Rising Sun flag tattoo. That tattoo seemed to have rubbed a lot of Koreans because they interpret it as a symbol of Japanese militarism and colonial rule. Poarch had to apologize saying that at the time she was getting the tattoo, she didn’t know the history behind it or what it meant.

Immediately she found out what it symbolized she immediately covered it and scheduled for it to be removed. In her apology, she mentioned that she felt very ashamed for having not done her research before getting the tattoo.

She has also been accused of racism

Just like Tana Mongeau, Poarch has been accused of using a racist nickname on someone in a Facebook post. It seems that the post has been deleted or there is no access. Apparently, she called some guy “Harambe”. People interpreted this to mean the gorilla who was killed after a boy went into his enclosure.

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For people with an eating disorder covid19 can be quite challenging. This is compounded by the increased time one has to spend with family, the lack of a routine that one may have been used to as well as an upset routine. During this time of the pandemic, there are organizations for people with eating disorders that have experienced a rise in people seeking their services. Lots of people have relapsed during the lockdown.

Scroll on as Love is All Colors takes a look at what can be spiking eating disorder during lockdown and why we all need to be concerned.

Eating disorder during lockdown

Why is COVID 19 causing eating disorder? The thing is when people’s lives have been disrupted and the tools one used to depend on for survival have been taken away most people feel like all they are left with is their problems. One thing that eating disorders thrive on is secrecy. So, when one is left alone, the chances of a relapse are heightened. When there are no distractions, its easy to fall back to old habits.

For instance, stockpiling in preparation for the lockdown has largely contributed to over eating in isolation. Also, due to stockpiling, people have not been able to get certain foods which may have helped them in eating healthy. So for those suffering from eating disorder covid19 could have made them relapse because now they have to make do with the unhealthy alternatives present.

The battle never ends

Engaging in outdoor activities really helps people with eating disorders. It is the perfect distraction. One thing we cannot deny is that this pandemic has come with a lot of stress. People have lost their jobs; families are feeling the pressure of having to stay together 24/7. So, there is a lot of lockdown stress eating. Most people are deteriorating.

The thing is, just like other mental illnesses, having an eating disorder is a constant battle. Its like having to keep fighting a monster in your brain. The voices just won’t quit. The irrational thoughts just never end. Plus being able to figure out what’s rational and what’s irrational can be hard.

Why is COVID 19 causing eating disorder? People are taking advantage of the fact that they are alone. They can now eat alone. There is no one to judge them. Who is there to stop them? It’s a dangerous cycle. Slipping and reforming. Slipping again and trying to reform again.

You can do better

If you have an eating disorder covid19 can really mess things up because there is really a lot of anxiety. One can feel out of control. One thing you need to know is that you deserve better. Don’t slip back into a coronavirus eating disorder. Besides slipping, there are those who will develop a coronavirus eating disorder just because of having to stay at home with access and availability of food just a few steps away.

We need to be concerned about any coronavirus eating disorder. People who have been there and are now in control should raise awareness of this.

During the lockdown, social media can be a contributing factor. Since people have all the time, some people might feel like there is no reason to be healthier, there is no reason to lose weight and all. But people are wrong. You need to make healthier meals and exercise like you used to. You need to avoid over eating in isolation.

The thing is lockdown stress eating is an emotional disorder. It becomes an escape for many people and a way to cope and manage depressing emotions and feelings. If you were a person who was outgoing, being alone in the apartment can be stressful.

The thing is, there are a lot of family members who have no idea the extent of the eating disorders that their loved ones have. So, for those who have a family with an eating disorder covid19 has become an eye-opener while isolating together. And this can really cause a lot of tension between family members.

If you really want to help a member of your family handle their condition better, the only way to do this is to avoid conflict. Try and be compassionate when voicing your concerns. Ask them politely to seek professional help. Being confrontational will worsen the situation and encourage lots of secrecy.

Just like alcoholism and drug addiction, eating disorders should be treated as an illness. So, you need to understand that its not their fault. It’s not a choice. They are sick. A word of advice is to approach this matter delicately and support them with their disorder like you would have if they had some other disease.

If you are the one who is struggling with an eating disorder during the pandemic, don’t beat yourself too hard. Be kind to yourself. Seek help if you can’t do it alone.

Don’t forget to stop by and read this article on “Common Weightloss Mistakes“.

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This year because of the coronavirus pandemic, celebrities seem to have become less and less entertaining. So why do we even care about celebrities? Ever since the coronavirus pandemic, one thing that I am beginning to notice is how irrelevant and how celebrities are no longer in charge. They are as paranoid and as exposed as the rest of the normal humans. No one is special. No one is in control.

So, I was thinking to myself the other day. Why should we bother about celebrities in 2020 when all they are doing is sending live streams of their equally bore selves from quarantine? Scroll on and hear my point of view on Love is All Colors.

Why care about celebrities?

Is it just me or have celebrities during coronavirus become less entertaining? I remember when the quarantine was enforced, the idea of having live video streams by celebrities performing stand up comedies, singing solo songs was quite intriguing. But as time went by, that excitement to me is dying down. And where are the new tv shows and new movies? Actors are probably the ones hard hit during this pandemic of boredom.

The thing is, it has become really evident. I have seen the likes of great singers doing videos that are annoying to watch. It’s like the virus has wiped out even their creativity. So why do we even care about celebrities? Is it worth putting ourselves through some of these boring live comedy shows that they are streaming? If you ask me, it’s the fans who have become the most entertaining lot.

Have you seen the memes that have been making rounds on social media? How about the jokes about banana bread making. We the audience have now become entertainment. You will be amazed at the brilliant minds of individuals that we never used to see because of believing that the only entertainment had to come from celebrities. You might actually be happier going to social media and searching for funny videos of kids dancing than watching some online comedy clip from a famous comedian.

Have you come across the clip that some famous celebrities like Gal Gadot, Natalie Portman, Will Ferrell, Norah Jones, Jamie Dornan, Sia, Zoë Kravitz, Sarah Silverman, Jimmy Fallon, Cara Delevingne, Pedro Pascal and Leslie Odom Jr. recorded themselves singing something about a world without war or possessions? Watch it and tell me, in your honest opinion, what you really thought about it.

Now much as they put an effort to call each other and try to entertain their fans, that clip was the real evidence that celebrities during coronavirus have kind of got boring. As in why were they trying to sing to the world when most of them clearly have zero vocal talent? Were those screeching voices meant to be entertaining? Were they trying to be funny? Well jokes on them.

With all the challenges and entertainments that we are providing for ourselves, who cares about celebrities?

The thing we are hoping for is that these dark times come to an end. The thing is celebrities in 2020
have isolated themselves in their palatial homes and are trying too hard to remain relevant by posting funny videos of them doing I don’t know what in the name of entertaining their fans. Unfortunately, even after millions tune into their social media channels in the hopes of seeing what new thing they have uploaded, we end up disappointed because it is not any more entertaining than repeating all the ten seasons of friends from season one.

Right now, I am sure there are so many people who once cared but right now, they dont care about Ellen. With every passing day we are realizing that as we battle with the pandemic, celebrities in 2020 are just like us. They are just as bored as we are and technologically incompetent. They are having as much trouble as the rest of us are trying to adjust to working from home. Some of their houses are too unkempt. They are having trouble working the cameras and webcams on their laptops just as we are.

So why do we even care about celebrities? I don’t think I am the only person who has made these observations. If you want to get the real entertainment, find one weird celebrity video and start going through the commenters. And that’s where the real entertainment is. From the funny usernames to them trying to make fun of celebrities lime Sam Neill who posted a video of his freshly cleaned collection of shoes. That was funny. Where is he going to wear them? At home lol!

Why care about celebrities and their boring videos especially if you are single and quarantining alone at home when you can turn to online dating and hook up with other singles? You have to admit that initially, being locked up at home must have been frustrating. It happened to me. One thing I knew was that I was going to die single.

See, the thing is, I can prove that you can go through all the movies on Netflix. Believe me, it can be done. Plus, most of them can be pretty boring. You start watching a movie then after reaching halfway, you keep hoping for some action every 10 minutes. In the end, you end up wondering why you become watching it in the first place.

Why do we even care about celebrities again when all we are getting is some old movies? Now I understand, that they have to take care of themselves as we are. Their jobs have become as irrelevant and as most of our jobs.

After a while, I decided to turn to online dating and social media groups for entertainment. I switched up my focus to online dating. It is something that I have actually come to appreciate more than trying to bother myself following every move of a celebrity. Can you imagine some are even posting photos of how to make soup and baby food from butternut squash at the same time? You don’t need a cooking degree to do it. It’s not entertaining and its not rocket science. How hard can adding water and turning on the stove be? Now that is the height of lack of creativity on these guys.

So, who cares about celebrities these days? Not me. I think time can be better spent making meaningful connections with other singles online. There were a lot of people gathering on the site looking to chat with others! Those are the people who understood what being stuck alone at home is really like. So, they appreciate making these connections even more. You are better off spending time having happy hour drinks on skype and having a good laugh out of it.

Why have notifications from your favorite celebrity keep making your phone vibrate all day? Even Miley Cyrus and her self-care broadcasts have been sucking at it. Her first video was taken in some very dark room. That is when you stop putting someone on a pedestal when you realize just how normal or even worse of than the normal people they are. Then she had the audacity to try and coaching people about how not to overdo the alcohol drinking when in isolation.

Can you believe that they even experience bad internet connections too? Yes, that happened with Cyrus having a split-screen conversation with Demi Lovato. The echo made if hard to even follow the whole conversation. And what was with the “gay as f*ck” reason for the connection that Cyrus and Lovato had as kids. I tried to laugh. I didn’t. Maybe I am the one who missed the joke.

Then there are the corona concerts. What good has come out of them, if I may really ask? The thing is, it can be very ridiculous when you are trying to pull a live concert while you are alone. To be honest common sense is not common to everyone. If you are planning on pulling off a really entertaining concert, you will at least need someone else there with you to film it.

We have to admit that the coronavirus has really exposed the ugly truth about celebrities. If they kept making you feel like you have to compete with them, that you are a lesser human being just because they can flash cars in music videos, don’t buy into all that. Its just publicity.

Now much as some of them are trying to show us that we are in this together, the ugly truth is that we are not. But when we see the likes of Madonna preaching to us all about how coronavirus “doesn’t care about how rich you are” in a bathtub filled with rose petals, you tend to wonder… why do we even care about celebrities? Continuing to tell us that “It’s the great equalizer.”

Gal Gadot above, with enlisting a group of tone-deaf multimillionaires to sing about a world with “no possessions”.  This is simply a mockery of the highest order. No wonder she received some major 2020 coronavirus backlash.

David Geffen, you cannot post pictures of you isolating in your $590m superyacht then delete them when you realize that the masses social media fire is on you. Ivanka Trump is not any different trying to show us how selfishly she is educated us ‘dirty-handed’ individuals on how to wash our hands by posting pictures of her kids cleaning their hands.

Next celebrity backlash victim: Pharell Williams. This one, he asked for it. He is worth hundreds of millions. Why would he ask his followers to donate to hospitals? “…donate your own money” is what a rep told him. Anyway, seems like he had already donated his share… But still. The ‘milk’ had already been spilled.

Much as we are on the same boat, what this virus, being a “great equalizer” that Madonna claims, has continued to show us how unequal we really are. These celebrities are just clueless, throwing words carelessly that which they believe we want to hear. But we cannot ignore the inequalities that are there, both in the access to healthcare as well as economically.

All these celebrities and politicians can just click their fingers and they get a hospital bed. How about the masses who are poor and with limited access?  Even getting access to a test is also impossible. So, what happens when the vaccines are here? We definitely know who will afford them and who will get priority… the rich and celebrities. So, don’t fault me if I say I dont care about Ellen and other celebrities. We might all be at risk but the reality of the matter is that we are not in this together.

In case you missed the article about Lena Dunham and how she finally opened up about her own experience with Coronavirus, which she said she contracted in March earlier this year, click on the link above to read more.

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Having and helping a friend with anxiety can be such a daunting task. It can take a lot on someone’s part to keep the relationship going. If a friend has anxiety and depression, it can be very hard for the two people involved in the friendship. The best way to go about it is to do lots of research on some facts about anxiety.

In this article by Love is all colors will also talk about how your friend with anxiety might be feeling. Don’t be scared about being there for an anxious friend. Read on for some of the tips on how to go around calming down a friend first who has anxiety.

Being there for someone with anxiety

If a close friend has an anxiety disorder or suffers from panic attacks from time to time, one way to be there for them is to be aware of it. You need to know that you are not the only person who has to deal with an anxious friend. There are over 300 million people globally who have to deal with some level of anxiety from close friends or family members.

When someone close to you suffers from anxiety, it can affect the way they feel, the way they think, and how they act. Lots of people however don’t know how to deal with anxiety or take steps towards alleviating it.

Helping a friend with anxiety can be very taxing. You need to know how to handle your friend whenever they get anxious. If the question on your mind is wondering if you can succeed in helping my friend with anxiety, then the answer is “Yes you can” All you need to do is to familiarize yourself with signs of anxiety. You also need to know how to respond in the best way that will be good for you and your friend.

Below are some of the ways that you can be helpful to your friend…

Be aware

One thing you need to know is that depression and anxiety are two different things. However, they sometimes overlap. So, you can find yourself in a situation where your friend has anxiety and depression. It is very common for a person to be depressed and also anxious. At the same time, most people with generalized anxiety disorder tend to become depressed later.

Much as below, we will highlight some of the common symptoms of both anxiety and depression, you need to seek help from a mental health professional or doctor to evaluate your friend and pinpoint which one of these disorders they are suffering from if not both.

Common symptoms of generalized anxiety disorder

• Muscle tension
• Being highly irritable
• Lack of concentration
• Worrying a lot
• Acting restless
• Tiring easily

Common symptoms of depression

• Lack of energy
• Losing interest in activities
• Sleeping too much or insomnia
• Suicidal behaviors and thoughts
• Decrease or increase in appetite
• Low mood
• Angry outbursts

For one to be diagnosed with anxiety or depression, they have 5 of the symptoms mentioned above for more than 2 weeks straight. See how the symptoms for the two disorders can overlap?

Remember your friend may not know how to explain their anxiety to you

If you think your partner has had the above symptoms for more than 6 months (or quite a while), it can cause you stress as well. Most people that have anxiety do not want to be anxious. It’s not something they wish on themselves.

One of the good ways of helping a friend with anxiety is not to blame them for it when you point their anxiety to them or have a discussion with them. However, if you ever feel that your physical well being is at risk or that their depression is rubbing off on your own emotional well-being, maybe its time to walk away from the friendship and let the professionals handle it.

You may wonder… how do I really go about helping my friend with anxiety? Let’s get into some of the main ways you can help that friend of yours.

Be a compassionate listener

If your friend is suffering from anxiety disorders, you don’t need to try to solve their problem. The best way to go about it is to be a great listener by telling them assuring phrases like: “I hear you” or “You are not alone” or “What can I do to help?”

You need to know that some phrases can worsen anxiety. Avoid phrases like “calm down”, “don’t be such a baby”, “there’s no reason to be anxious”, “get over it”, “you don’t have to be afraid” … These only make the situation worse. Such phrases show that you are dismissing your friend’s feelings which can make them be more shameful about their anxiety.

Instead, use phrases that let them know that you are there for them and with them no matter what. That together, you will get through the anxiety.

Know that your questions or suggestions might appear judgemental and pressurizing.

Sometimes, when calming down a friend with anxiety, no matter how positive the suggestion is, it might appear judgmental even when that wasn’t what was intended. You need to realize that already, they feel under pressure to contain their anxiety. Some questions or suggestions might add to the pressure and frustrations to being normal that they are already feeling. These might make the situation even worse.

Distract them with some humor

Laughter has always been known to be the best medicine. A humorous distraction can be the best way to calming down a friend. Try doing things together that you both enjoy. Watch a funny movie to give them a well-needed distraction. As per research, humor has a way of helping people cope with acute anxiety. Lighten their mood whenever the anxiety pangs strike and let them forget for a bit about what was causing the anxiety in the first place.

Don’t give them too much space

If you give someone who is anxious too much space, they might misinterpret this as abandonment. Abandonment and fear can exacerbate feelings of anxiety. Even if they might insist that they want to be alone, remember, when helping a friend with anxiety, saying they want to be alone is probably their way of not wanting to feel needy. In the real sense, they could be begging you to just stay with them. Abandonment adds more hurt to their situation. You need to prove that you are there for them, even when they claim they don’t want your help.

You could also be anxious about their situation

When a friend is anxious, it can be infectious. You don’t want to see them suffer because you care about them. At times, trying to make their anxiety go away can also make you anxious. Who wants to see their friend suffer? That anxiety of trying to make life easier for them can make their own anxiety worse. Pipe down. Try as much as possible not to show them how much you are really struggling to help them. Instead, keep your frustrations in check.

Just show your friend how much you love them and how much their condition won’t affect your friendship. Just be a true friend. Stand by them. Prove that you can handle their situation. Show them that if you can, they can too.

Encourage them to get professional help

Anxiety is not an easy thing for many people to get over, especially if it is acute. If your friend has it or you have noticed the symptoms we mentioned above, encourage them to see a doctor and or counselor.

It is hard, especially if they are in denial. What you need to do is talk to them in a way that will make them see that they need help. Be kind while at it. When it’s a friend, if you really care about them, it can be a lot of pressure to offer support.

Whenever it starts feeling like its too much for you to handle seek counseling for yourself. It will also help you figure out how to handle yourself when around them.

Parting shot

You might find that your friend might not know how to explain their anxiety to you. Maybe they just don’t know they are or they are just embarrassed to admit to the ‘put-together’ you. Then there is the bit that maybe they are scared that if you come clean, you won’t be their friend anymore.

Sometimes, helping a friend with anxiety is as simple as just getting them a pet. Apparently, pets help a lot with dealing with anxiety. So, if they are not allergic or anything, just get them a pet. Sometimes a cat or a dog is the answer you need to being there for someone with anxiety, on days you can’t be personally present.

In cases you missed it, read this article on How Your Pet Can Help With Anxiety

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There are lots of cases where a person can be unhappy in relationship and yet unable to tell what is causing that unhappiness. It can even be harder to know what to change to make you happier seeing as another party is involved. That is how complicated relationships can be. Question is when you deep in it, can you be able to pinpoint whether it’s the relationship that is making you unhappy or maybe it’s just general unhappiness?

Read ahead about signs of being miserable in relationship…

Signs you are unsatisfied with relationship

There are some of us who just love the idea of being in relationships. Whether we are happy or not, it doesn’t really matter. All that matters is that we are attached. Do you know someone like that? Are you the kind of person who feels like everything isn’t right with your relationship but you are still in it trying to convince yourself that that is how all relationships are? That relationships aren’t easy? That relationships require work?

Yes, relationships have their ups and downs. But if you are unsatisfied with relationship, deep down I believe you will know. The ups will be more than the downs. If you are happy, then you will be in a position to work out the downs and move past them. So even if no relationship is perfect, there are some reflags that could be a sign of a downward spiral ahead.

So if you are pondering whether you are actually unhappy, then maybe you are also contemplating about the steps to take about it. If you are having a hard time telling whether you are unhappy in your relationship, maybe these signs should help you narrow things down…

Dreading commitment

If you’ve been in an exclusive relationship with someone for more than a year and the thought of even being engaged to that person scares the sh** out of you, then chances are you are unhappy in relationship. Maybe you are in an unhappy relationship but love him. Who knows. The thing is, if you are happy, the thought of taking the next step should be exciting to you. If you have a hesitant bone in you that you can’t explain, then you are not happy.

Contempt for your partner

Contempt. Need I say more? If you have been pushed to this point, now is not to the time to ask how to get out of an unhappy relationship. Now is the time to GET OUT! PERIOD! The moment you start treating your partner as inferior, that’s the moment you know contempt has checked in. If you find yourself enjoying moments when you make your partner feel worthless, then it means you hate that person.

On the other hand, if your partner makes you feel worthless and it makes you really lose your self-worth, then you are also unhappy. Don’t start giving people the I love my boyfriend but I am not happy line. If he treats you with contempt and despises you, nothing good will ever come out of it. Its disaster from thereon… If you start resenting someone for things you ones love them for, then the relationship is as good as dead.

You can’t be yourself around your partner

Does your partner make you feel uncomfortable being you? Do you feel tired that you have to change the core of your whole being just to please them? Are you afraid of being yourself because you are scared of what they might do to you or are afraid you will lose them?

If you feel like he or she is dragging you down by making you feel uncomfortable in your own skin, then you are miserable in relationship. People in happy relationships feel free to walk, talk, look, breath, move, and do all the things that make them unique.

Always snooping

Mutual trust and mutual respect are necessary for any relationship to thrive. Now, here is one thing we have to just lay it out on the table… EVERYONE SNOOPS!!! If you are snooping on your partner, then you are definitely trying to find something you think they are hiding from you.

Now, its human to have some doubts. But if you find yourself snooping every waking moment and questioning everything about your partner, then you are definitely unhappy in relationship. Or, you are just trying to find a reason for how to get out of an unhappy relationship.

Imagining a happier life single

We all have fantasies, right… Even when we are with the partners we love dearly, we still find ourselves imagining being with other people sexually… or meeting someone new. Now, this doesn’t really mean that one is planning to act on these fantasies.

But, if all you think about is a happier life without your partner, then you are probably not happy at all. You probably feel you are un a wrong relationship and you can’t wait for the day you will get out. If you are not in the slightest bit imagining some kind of life in the future together, then you are clearly done.

Depressed about going home to your partner

Now, we all know… we all have our good and bad days. That happens in relationships too. So if you constantly hate the fact that time has come to go home to be with your partner, then clearly, there is a relationship challenge. One needs to be comfortable in their own home.

Whatever it is you might be dreading, it must be bad. So don’t start convincing yourself that you are in an unhappy relationship but love him. If you find yourself avoiding being under the same roof with him or her, then you are clearly unhappy. When you yearn to be alone all the time and you are not sure why then you need to start figuring out why am I so unhappy in my relationship.

Other people besides your partner always come first

It is important to have a life outside of your relationship. It’s healthy to make time for people other than your partner. But if you find yourself always prioritizing your friends and family over your partner then that is a sure sign of being unhappy in relationship.

It is Ok to rely on friends and family for emotional support. But if you find that you no longer have a desire to seek support from your partner, then clearly you don’t feel safe enough to be vulnerable with them.

Feeling so alone

I love my boyfriend but I am not happy. This is something that some people in relationships will declare especially when they feel alone. The thing is, it is possible to be in a relationship and still be very lonely. And one of the reasons could be the situation where a couple is living parallel lives… lives are not intertwined at any point.

The thing about being in a happy relationship is the feeling that you’re in it together. So if you reach a point where you start feeling that you are in it alone, then something is amiss. The feeling of loneliness means that your partner is not as emotionally available as they once were.

If you are asking yourself why am I so unhappy in my relationship, maybe it’s because you no longer feel like you are a team. So if you find that you are shutting down and are becoming unresponsive to your partner, then chances are you are unhappy.

Feeling there is nothing else to fight for

Now, there is usually the common knowledge that when there are too many arguments between a couple, then that is a sure sign that the relationship is headed for the gutter. Much as that is indeed true, the opposite is also true.

Have you ever heard people say that when a woman stops complaining, that is when a man should be worried most?

The thing is, conflict is healthy in relationships. It means that those in the relationship are conscious about maintaining the health of the relationship. It means that someone is invested.

So if you find yourself caring less about your partner’s bad behavior, then it means that you are getting fed up. It means that they have pushed you to a point of no return.

Nothing positive to say about the relationship

Even in those very bad relationships, I believe there is always something positive left to say. But if all you can do is think of the bad, nothing good whatsoever, then you are unhappy in relationship. The constant feeling of unhappiness and lack of satisfaction means it’s time to just pull the plug on that one.

Yes, relationships have ups and downs. But if you are in one where you don’t seem to catch a break from the bad, you may want to rethink your status. Don’t feel stuck. If it’s too much work, it’s not working. Do not ignore some of the above signs. Ignoring them might do more harm than good to your relationship.

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Since being unveiled as the kangaroo on The Masked Singer, Jordyn Woods has revealed that she is going to pursue a career in music.

And she has already started working on an album…

“There will be an album! Stay tuned for when this is over and I can actually get to the studio to record the music I’ve made,” the 22-year-old model – and former Kylie Jenner BFF – told People.

Despite never publically mentioning her singing talent, Jordyn Woods revealed that her fans weren’t too surprised when she took off her kangaroo mask and her identity was revealed…

“Every single week I see tweets about me being the Kangaroo or people commenting on my pictures with the kangaroo emoji, saying, ‘Oh, I didn’t know you could sing,’ with the winky face, just to see if I say anything,” she continued.

“I didn’t even realize people would know, because I’ve never publicly sang. People are just smart.”

Social media may have been all over it, but Jenny McCarthy was the only judge to correctly guess her identity!

Jordyn Woods also told People that appearing on the show was an opportunity she couldn’t pass up – especially as it meant that the public could see a different side to her. In particular, a side that doesn’t have anything to do with the Kardashian/Jenner family…

“I felt like The Masked Singer was one of those opportunities of a lifetime where you can’t pass up if you get the opportunity to even be on it,” she said.

“And singing and music is something I’ve always loved, but it was a childhood fantasy. I didn’t think I would ever be on stage performing.

“I definitely don’t think people thought I could sing, but everyone has their opinion. Sometimes people are like, “What is her talent?” You can be an influencer, I’ve filmed movies and I have my own businesses, but people are still like, “Okay, so what’s your talent?” As if entrepreneurship isn’t enough.

“I wanted to show people a different side of me that even I didn’t know existed before doing the show.”

We think she definitely achieved that!

Did you guess that Jordyn Woods was behind the kangaroo costume on The Masked Singer?

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Easing My Loneliness during the Coronavirus lock down

When I first heard the announcements of the Covid-19 lock down, the first thing I told my friend on the phone was, ‘It’s confirmed. I am going to die single!’.  This was because at first, I was caught up in a roller coaster of mixed emotions.

I am 34 years old. I have been single for quite a while now. And quite a while here is more than 5 years. I long ago had a plan. One that involved having 2 kids and a great husband. Yet in the back of my mind there was always that inevitable clock that weighed heavily on my mind. Then this?!!! How am I supposed to get a dude in the times of Coronavirus? What unprecedented territory!

To be honest, if there was a time when being single was rubbed pretty well in my face, it was this. When we were asked to stay home – and the closure of bars and clubs (the place I always run to whenever I feel down or too lonely).

No more parties? No more family gatherings? For a moment, I stopped worrying about living single. It now became clear that I was going to die alone in my little apartment. If I become ill, who will come to see me? I even started feeling claustrophobic.

How I hated attending family gatherings because I used to dread the “Have you met someone?” question. Now, I would give anything to attend. The isolation was wearing heavy on me. Oh how I wish I had that ‘someone’ right now to keep me company. I needed a distraction from all these feelings of sadness and loneliness.

And the news wasn’t helping…

I never used to be the kind of person who tuned into the news. I used to stay updated in the office through colleagues as they discussed the news of the day instead. That way, I could pick and choose what I listened to. Blocking out the bad news? No problemo. Just hum a little tune in my head. You should see me now. I am glued to every news segment possible. I need to know everything about the COVID-19 virus and how best to protect my lonely self.

During the earlier days, the news was nothing short of depressing. Numbers of cases increasing… not to mention the significant numbers of people dying… Then there was the worry that maybe, just maybe, you came into contact with someone who had the virus already. Digesting this news alone, wasn’t pretty.

My early days in self-isolation

One thing that hit me hard was how much time I had on my hands. My initial plan for distracting myself from all the the depressing news was de-cluttering and getting my house in order. Unfortunately, did you know this is something that won’t take you even more than two days to finish if you are bored enough?

What next? Since the news were all about the Coronavirus, I decided to only tune in once a day. The rest of my time became Netflix time involving laziness and a mega binge watch of my favorite TV shows. Fun as it sounds, that routine gets old too after a week or so.

So What Next?

First off, much as the number of cases keep rising, we are told there is the hope and encouragement that so long as we stick to the guidelines, eventually we will be fine… that we will get used to self isolation.

Ummmm…. Not when you are alone! I was massively feeling the negative effects of social distancing!

All I could think about was the future. I even started thinking that maybe I was a little too hard on some of the douche bags I had dumped in the past. Maybe if I was a little patient with Joshua’s lack of ambition, eventually, he would have found something to get excited about… Was I too impatient?

This period of self isolation has been daunting for me I must admit. How I wish I had Joshua by my side … lol. Oh wait! Let me not cry over spilt milk for too long…

Tinder and Bumble No Longer Doing it for me

Much as I have been relying on the bar scene to meet people I have also simultaneously been dating online. I have used many popular dating apps such as Tinder and Bumble,. However, this time it is different.

Before this whole mess, I used dating apps whenever I wanted to meet someone quickly within my area. So basically, if I was bored and wanted someone to keep me company, the apps were my go-to place. So I wasn’t really too keen on making meaningful connections, it was more about satisfying an urge rather than having meaningful company or someone decent to talk to.

But now I want more and it’s not that easy. Physical dates are clearly out. A month ago, I would have given or done anything to find love. But much as the thought of being within touching distance with a potential boyfriend is steamier, it has now become the scariest thought on my mind.

I had to accept that such is love in times of the Coronavirus. Yes, it is a scary situation. But you know what? Much as I had to self isolate I still need people in my life and not the type of guy I was meeting on the nearby hookup dating apps. I had to find a way to adapt. I realized then more than ever how having someone to talk to was going to make a great difference in coping with the loneliness.

Switching focus to online dating sites instead

I have mentioned about how I used to like keeping things casual. That doesn’t mean that I never yearned for deeper and more meaningful connections online… they just never happened.

Well, after realizing and accepting that swiping for fast dates wasn’t a sane and safe option for me anymore, I decided to try out InterracialDatingCentral.com – a site that is more specialized in dating and helping singles forge long-term relationships, with a proven track record.

What I found out really quickly

There were a lot of people gathering on the site looking to chat with others! I’d assumed that maybe this would not be the case but obviously many others, both men and women, had the same idea that I did.

So I quickly and easily registered which involved creating a well thought out profile. I mean it’s not like I had some place to be. Time is all I had. Here are a few things I made sure to do right….

Killer profile

I always used to rush through the profile creation process on apps. I have an excuse for that… lack of time. Well, now that I have it, I figured, it was about time I stepped things up. Here are some of the essential components of my profile that I paid attention to:

Profile picture

My profile pictures on apps used to pictures of me in front of a plain background. But after seeing rounds of the pictures that people have been posting on the internet during self isolation, I decided to add some activity into my picture. So my profile pictures (which I change often) are pictures of me doing something interesting like baking, painting… At a glance, one is able to see my interests. I also add other pictures that tell a story of what I am all about. And all these are new photos taken during the lock down.

An interesting ‘About Me’ section

Even though my pictures speak for themselves, I figured I’d get more potential mates hitting up my inbox if I shared a little more interesting stuff about myself (Have you seen how creative people have become on social media and the internet in general?). If you don’t step it up, you lose and providing relevance to the coronavirus situation in my description has helped!

Regularly updating my profile

When I registered on InterracialDatingCentral, I got an email from them which was speaking about how constantly updating your profile makes you relevant. Something as simple as adding a simple line or rewording your profile makes you appear on the ‘most active’ list of members.

So, for me, it’s the profile picture that I am capitalizing through. And every week, it’s a picture of me doing something different. That way, if someone didn’t think cooking is fun enough, maybe painting will catch their attention.

Communicating with as many people as possible

Now, there are the simple communication skills that we have all heard of. What self isolation has taught me is to give any potential mate a chance. Before, I used to read through people’s messages, looking for deal breakers and reasons to write them off. Well, that had to change.

Today, when someone hits my inbox, I am more likely to reply. Now more than ever, I have realized the importance of simple social interactions that I used to take for granted and sometimes ignored. So, even if not romantic, I am saner when I just talk to someone about how their day has been without any romantic expectations or pressure.

How to make a long distance relationship work

“I won’t touch you with a ten-foot pole”. Now we literally have to keep that in mind. In our case it’s six feet.

Social distancing, self isolation, quarantine, lock down… All these phrases and words that have come up after the Coronavirus was declared a pandemic mean that dating and romance must adjust. If your special someone wasn’t with you when a lock down was announced, you now have to go the long distance relationship way.

The same applies for singles. Now, we have to rely on online dating features that support instant long distance communication. Skype, Face Time and Video chats provided by online dating sites have become the closest thing to meeting in person.

The other day, I was chatting to this guy and he suggested that I join him for a drink. So he was like: “So what are you having my lady”? I ‘asked’ for chardonnay (this was definitely a bottle I had in my house). We sat, there and talked via Skype long into the night, until the bottle had long emptied, and had a good laugh out of it.

My online dating experience in a nutshell

You are not going to believe what happened as soon as I took my profile live. Put simply, I have never received that much attention on a dating site. Clearly, online dating has become the go-to place for singles to connect and share their experiences. Don’t even get me started on the number of flirts and messages flooding my inbox. And as I mentioned earlier, I have the time to reply to every single one who has messaged. The more I do that, the more I am realizing that there so many people of substance that I passed on in the past because of being too judgmental and relying on what was in front of me at a quick glance.

It’s all about building meaningful connections

One thing that I have noticed that’s different is that men are actually taking their time and are having conversations. They are chatting more and the conversations are becoming more frequent and more consistent. For the first time, I am actually connecting with men online and I am building both friendships and romantic connections. People are sharing more about themselves and in turn it has become easier for me to do the sane, even on my profile.

Now, I have the opportunity to meet someone  and establish an emotional connection. Given the self isolation, I have the time to actually find out what the man is all about and drop those that aren’t adding value to me and, therefore, maintain engagement with those that genuinely want to take it to another level once this Coronavirus crisis blows over.

Make the Best out of a Bad Situation

One good thing that has come out of this crisis is that I have found the time to get to know someone first, as opposed to rushing into meeting someone, then getting to know them later.

I no longer feel as alone as I initially felt at the start of the lock down because I chose to accept the situation and adapt to it. Bond now, have fun and distract yourself, and then meet later when the crisis has been contained.

I am maintaining social interactions with friends and family by catching up on all the silly and ‘not so silly’ ways they are coping with social distancing. This has really diminished the feelings of loneliness that I initially had.

Now I am concentrating on building connections and relationships. And this is one way that living under ‘house arrest’ has forced me to re-learn the way I date online and has shifted my habits… hopefully permanently.

Even though this epidemic has changed the way we interact with each other somehow, pushing us apart has forced people to cultivate better communication skills and come up with ways to reach out and offer support, which are helping us stay together even when we are apart. I hope THAT continues.

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Looks like Georgina Chapman – the ex-wife of disgraced movie producer Harvey Weinstein, and one half of fashion label Marchesa – is finally moving on with another man.

According to reports, the 43-year-old fashion designer is now dating 46-year-old Oscar-winning-actor Adrien Brody, after getting close to him in Puerto Rico last year. (He won the Best Actor Oscar for his role in The Pianist when he was just 29 years old, FYI.)

Although the pair had met a number of times previously – Weinstein’s company Miramax produced two of the films which Adrien Brody starred in – rumor has it that their romance really began to blossom in Puerto Rico, where they were both invited to celebrate the launch of model Helena Christensen’s swimwear line.

They have reportedly been getting serious since the fall, with sources claiming that Adrien has been a big support to Georgina during this understandably difficult time.

This is the first relationship for Georgina since leaving the 67-year-old disgraced producer. Georgina Chapman and Harvey Weinstein were married in 2007 and have two children together. She left him in 2017 following the seemingly endless sexual misconduct allegations against him, and their divorce was finalized in 2018. She has sole custody of their two children.

Earlier this week, Harvey Weinstein was found guilty of rape in the third degree, and criminal sexual act in the first degree, during his court hearing in New York.

He now faces a second sexual-assault trial in Los Angeles, over two cases which date back to 2013.

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Wanna know how to resolve conflict in a relationship? Much as we would all love to have smooth relationships, it’s unfortunate that sometimes, we tend to get in each other’s ways or have a difference in opinions that arise in verbal disagreements and arguments. That said, conflict isn’t necessarily a bad thing. We are all wired differently hence have a right to differences in opinions from our spouses.

Read on to find out how to resolve conflict healthily…

Healthy ways on how to deal with conflict in a relationship

Communication is important for any relationship if it is meant to progress in a healthy manner. Both you and your partner need to learn how to communicate effectively in order to understand each other better as well as strengthen the relationship. Now, as mentioned above, we can’t run away from a little friction in our relationships every once in a while. And that is not a bad thing. Basically, conflict is how we learn to deal with and live with our partners. And the better we get at resolving an argument successfully, the healthier and more mature the relationship will be.

Now, much as it is normal to experience some conflict in relationship, it can also be a sign that some areas of the relationship aren’t working. The thing is, there are times when a relationship argument arises, then you think that you and your partner have resolved it. Only for it to come up over and over again. This scenario happens when one is overwhelmed with emotion which distorts one’s thinking making it hard to think rationally.

The thing is, we all like our partners to empathize with our position. Now if you want the right answer to how to resolve conflict in a relationship, then you shouldn’t insist on your viewpoint to be the valid one. Otherwise, you will reach a stalemate thereby frustrating one another. 

 Here are some ways you can avoid a stalemate…

Be direct without blaming each other

This is where communication skills come in. There are some people who choose to bottle up their feelings thinking that that’s how to stop fighting in a relationship – until something becomes too much for them to handle and then they just explode! Being evasive isn’t a good approach.

The best approach is to just come out and state plainly what is bothering you. Instead of being condescending and waiting for your partner to figure out that there is some underlying hostility by pouting, just be direct and address the issue. The thing is indirect ways of expressing anger, in most cases, fall on deaf ears. How is your partner expected to come up with the right way to fix an issue he has no idea what it is?

The best approach is to be direct without being insulting to your partner or their character. Be direct without blaming your partner. Pointing fingers at them will only make them defensive. So instead so “You are…” begin with the statement “I feel that…” without blaming your partner. Also, talk about the specific behavior that’s ticking you off as opposed to pointing out your partner’s character flaws. So instead of saying “Your jealousy is totally irrational”, go with “I feel bad when you claim I am being flirtatious with a woman when I am just having an innocent conversation”.

Compromise whenever possible

I know this is easier said than done but making a compromise in relationships is one of the solutions to how to resolve conflict in a relationship and for any relationship to remain healthy and strong. I want Indian and he wants Chinese? Just compromise. Talk about it and agree to have Indian today and Chinese the next day. And compromise is never just about food. There are more serious differences that arise. Being selfish and wanting things to go your way is not the way to maintain a good relationship. So the idea is to find a middle ground that works for both of you and that leaves both of you feeling quite satisfied as opposed to one party feeling cheated and their needs ignored.

Here is a small example. If before the relationship, you used to hang out with your friends every night, reduce this time to say thrice, so that you can spend the other four days of the week with your partner.

Listen and try looking at things from your partner’s perspective

The other way on how to avoid arguments is to listen as opposed to interrupting your partner. It is normal to get defensive when you are being accused by someone. But try and avoid this. When resolving an argument show them that you understand what they are saying by paraphrasing their points to prevent misunderstandings in the future.

Hear your partner out and sincerely consider what they are saying. Sometimes the best conflict resolution in a relationship technique is to look at the issue in question from your partner’s perspective. Understand where they are coming from. Most people who do this normally come out less angry or not at all after a relationship argument.

The other thing is to try and be objective. Instead of thinking about the conflict from your own perspective try looking at it from a non-biased third party who has the interests of both parties at heart.

Know when to take a time out

When it comes to conflict resolution in a relationship sometimes the best course of action is to just take a time out. The thing with arguments is that you might find yourself falling into negative patterns when it comes to following the above tips on how to resolve conflict in a relationship. If you find yourselves spiraling out of control, take a breather from the argument.  Sometimes something as simple as taking deep breathes can calm the rising tempers. Controlling anger is important when it comes to conflict resolution.

Agree to disagree

The best way to navigate around a conflict in relationship is to acknowledge that conflict is bound to arise. This is because you are two individuals born by different people and raised differently. So you need to accept that you will never be able to agree on everything. Your backgrounds are different. So some (if not most) of your opinions are bound to be different.

The thing is, you need sometimes take one for the team and just drop it. Sometimes, this is the best approach to how to deal with conflict in a relationship. If you can’t really agree, then maybe it is a good idea to just let it go. The thing is, you and your partner will never agree on everything.

Ask yourself, is the issue important? Does it affect your feelings? Is it something that is touching on your morals? If its something that doesn’t affect the relationship, then it is safer to let it go. But if it is too important for both of you to drop it, then maybe you just aren’t compatible.

Now if you are still arguing or have constant conflict but still feel that you both want to save your relationship, then seek professional advice and deal with the real underlying issue.

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It’s only January, but 2020 is already, without a doubt, Billie Eilish’s year!

After dominating the Grammys on Sunday night with a staggering five wins, the 18-year-old will reportedly be taking on next month’s Academy Awards.

(Billie Eilish became the second artist in history to win a Grammy in all four of the ‘big four’ categories. Christopher Cross is the only other artist to achieve this, when he swept the Grammys way back in 1981.)

According to reports, Billie Eilish will be performing at the Oscars, despite her song not being one of the ‘Best Original Song’ Oscar contenders. The Academy has, however, listed it as a ‘Special Performance’…

“Are you ready?” The Academy teased on Twitter.

“@billieeilish will take to the #Oscars stage for a special performance! Watch live on @ABC.”

As she and her brother Finneas O’Connell have been given the honor of recording the theme song for the latest James Bond movie, No Time To Die, it’s looking pretty likely that that’s what she will sing.

The song could therefore make its debut on the Oscars stage. No biggie…

Billie Eilish will be in very good company, as the other musical performers will be Cynthia Erivo, Elton John, Idina Menzel, Chrissy Metz and Randy Newman. They will each be performing their songs that have been nominated in the ‘Best Original Song’ category.

The 2020 Academy Awards take place on February 9.

Who’s excited?

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