There are so many reasons that this year one can feel loneliness at Christmas. The death of a spouse, being away from relatives. But the one that takes the crown this year is being alone for Christmas because of social isolation. This can be really challenging for people who have no relatives, family, or friends that they can enjoy the holidays with. You might get anxious that you are going to be alone but I know you can survive it. You can choose to deal with the anxiety of feeling lonely, find fun things to put some zing into the holidays, or plan ahead so that come next year, you will not be alone during the holidays.

Scroll on as we bring you some simple tips that will be of great help this Christmas…

Dealing with being single at Christmas

One thing I am going to tell you is that being single at Christmas is not a death sentence. Does it suck? Yes, it sure does. Should you just sit around and mop about it? Don’t. You can make the choice to suck it up and face the world head-on! The thing is, Christmas is not only for couples. It’s a holiday for everyone. All you need is the jolly Christmas cheer and you are good to go. People or no people around you, you need to totally own your dating status.

So you don’t need to be gloomy when you hear the word Christmas. There is nothing wrong with being single on this day. It’s a day like any other. Well, below are some of the ways that will ensure that you survive this day fabulously. Apply some of these tips and you will for sure deal with loneliness at Christmas.

Deal with your mental state by embracing your single status

Winter blues are for real. That much I can tell you. The easiest way to deal with the mental state of feeling lonely at Christmas is to accept and own your singlehood. It is okay to be single on this jolly day. What would you rather? Being single during the holidays or being in a bad relationship? I pick the latter.

There are those annoying aunts and relatives of ours who like asking the annoying “why are you still single” question. Well, be ready for an answer for them… “I’d rather be single than be in a bad relationship”. Dodge these questions with some sarcastic and sassy answers. Or just politely tell them to buzz off.

Stop focusing on being single. Turn things around and have some fun by turning to online dating and using some of these pick up lines. You know, all you need to know about overcoming Christmas loneliness is to just get a little flirty with other singles. Live a little. Get your flirt on.

Just because it’s Christmas doesn’t mean that now you settle for less just so people can see you have a guy or girl. Prioritize and love and accept yourself. Trust me, This Christmas, make being single the best experience of your life.

Try online dating

Remember when I talked about preparing yourself for the future? Well, this is one of the best ways to ensure this. Much as you are alone for Christmas, there is Valentine’s Day coming up in about six weeks or so. So dating when lonely at Christmas is something that you need to really consider.

According to online dating surveys, there is usually a surge in online dating use by members during the holidays and just after the holidays. The thing is, you are not the only single person at Christmas. More members who are single like you during the Christmas holidays are the ones who sign-up a fresh during this time. Those who are inactive members are now renewing their memberships. Apparently, there are lots of connections that happen online.

Well, take advantage of this online surge and snug yourself a Valentine’s Day date or connect with someone and you will be set for all other holidays that are coming up…

So why not sign up on an online dating site like InterracialDatingCentral. Registration is FREE and easy. But if you want to get ahead of the pack, then go for the premium package and enjoy all the communication features available. Who knows…A lot can happen in six weeks… Love doesn’t have to come to you on Christmas day.

And if you are single even on this day, there will be other singles online on this day. Love doesn’t have to come your way on this particular day. There are other days ahead. Just keep an open and positive mind.

Enjoy it to the fullest

The last and most important thing about how to overcome loneliness at Christmas is to just roll with it and enjoy the day. You might be feeling lonely at Christmas, but that doesn’t mean that now you give up on yourself. There is more to life than snuggling with someone under the blanket with someone on Christmas eve. Much as we are all social beings and the idea of snuggling is much better, it might not really be enough.

One thing you need to acknowledge if you are to survive loneliness at Christmas is that sometimes all it takes is just doing what makes you happy. See, when you are alone, you can just be yourself and do you. You don’t have to now start pleasing the people around you at Christmas. You won’t have to start leasing a car so that you can go make your other siblings and relatives jealous. Being alone means being yourself.

So, you have been having winter blues on all holidays since Thanksgiving. But have you ever noticed that Christmas just has a way of lighting up everyone’s face… even the saddest of them all? It’s all about celebration and love.

The thing is, Christmas is a cherished event that has been celebrated for years. So this year, do not let it pass you by over something as trivial as the feelings of loneliness. If you dig deeper and look at the bright side, just like in everything situation that is gloomy, you can find blessings that come with being single during the holidays.

Look at it this way. You can do anything you want with zero restrictions. You can give whatever it is you do 100% love. How about making it a point to change the course of your life and start doing things afresh? Trying something new might seem hard but it’s worth the shot.

Get in the Christmassy mood

Plan a fabulous day for yourself if you know being alone is inevitable, especially with the self-isolation and the lockdown in place. Light up your house. GO online and treat yourself to something great. Decorate your house.

Send out gifts. Sometimes the recipe for overcoming Christmas loneliness is to spread cheer. Gifting someone else is the best way to get into the mood. I know you know that joyful feeling when someone calls you to say thank you for the special gift you sent them. That appreciation itself can take away most of your loneliness. You know that there is someone out there who appreciates you… making you feel less lonely.

Loneliness shouldn’t stop you from enjoying this special holiday. Use this time when you are alone to relax and reflect or drop the clichés and do something offbeat like learning a new language or writing a novel.

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Whenever we watch movies of princesses, princes, and knights, they usually have the perfect relationship with happy endings and happily ever after. I have been watching such movies growing up. It is for this reason that most girls usually dream of that perfect wedding in the hopes that it will also make them have great relationships with their happily ever after. Much as we all strive to have great relationships, one thing that people have no idea about is how to have that great relationship.

Is there a way that people can achieve this? Read on as we look at this overly searched topic.

Tips for succeeding in a partnership

It can be very tricky to have a great relationship with your partner. See, the thing is, we usually come from different backgrounds. So when one meets their partner, usually it’s later in life. People are usually brought up differently. So when a couple meets in adulthood, they usually share different views, values, and opinions that are usually shaped by how or where they are brought up. That is why, for instance, republican democrat dating can be a bit tricky.

One thing that can make things smoother is for a couple to find some common ground even when they have differences. They need to find ways of compromising and meeting in the middle.  Well, here are some of the tips for a perfect relationship.

Communication

One of the ways of succeeding in a partnership is to talk to one another. Communication is key and has been cited over and over again as the best way for a couple to have a great relationship. One thing that people need to realize is that no one is a mind reader. So you need to air out issues that might be affecting your relationship. A lot of people normally have no idea how their actions affect the other person. So if your partner does something that upsets you, you need to find a way to talk about out.

With communication, you don’t just point out the negative things. Also, let your partner know about the positive things he might be doing. Positive reinforcement usually works better. At the same time, even if you are angry, try and gently point something out instead of criticizing your partner. When they are great, appreciate them too.

In a fight, try seeing things from their point of view or from a neutral point

Being rational in a fight can really be hard because anger usually clouds our judgments. That said, it doesn’t mean that best partner relationships are impossible to achieve. Sometimes, stepping out and looking at the issue from someone else’s point of view can really help. This is the reason why people are usually advised to wait and deal with an issue after the anger has subsided.

One thing you need to both acknowledge is that you are a couple. So the “me vs. you” attitude should be checked when in a fight. You are not in a fight with an enemy. Teach yourselves to fight as a team. So instead of pointing fingers, try and find solutions instead.

Most people have a “me vs. you” attitude when it comes to fighting. They view it as a battle against the enemy. This could not be more destructive! Instead, have a “we” or team mentality. You’re both in this relationship together, so you have to come up with solutions together. Stepping back and looking at it from an objective perspective helps tremendously.

Give your relationship the attention it deserves

One of the tips on how to have a perfect relationship is to give that relationship attention. A relationship can’t be expected to work on ‘auto-pilot’. Just like plants, the relationship needs to be taken care of and watered. So if you don’t water or feed your relationship, it is bound to die. So put in some effort to nurture it by making time for you and your partner.

Support each other’s needs, hopes, and dreams

Whenever necessary, try and put the needs of your partner before your own. If it is something that affects your values, you are allowed to be a little selfish. Remember to care about your partner’s needs too.

The other thing is that you need to also support each other’s dreams. If you squash your partner’s needs, chances are, with time they will grow resentful. Also, don’t always be the one who supports and just ignores your own needs. Both if you need to be able to support as well as make sacrifices – both ways. Always encourage them to follow their dreams and be each other’s rock.

Laugh together and build a friendship. Sometimes, it’s never that serious.

Best partner relationships are but on friendships. One of the things that make romantic relationships built on friendships work is because people are usually more caring and more forgiving of their friends. The other thing is that friends usually know how to have a good laugh together and have fun. Whoever said ‘laughter is the best medicine’ was not wrong.

The thing is when things get too serious, they can become a little stressing and then they forget to laugh. When we forget to laugh, we start focusing on the negative things about our partners. Well, if you want to build the perfect relationship, always remember to laugh and have fun with each other.  Couples that have fun and laugh together, stay together. Find some amusement in your relationship.

Talk about your relationship goals

As I mentioned earlier, a relationship shouldn’t be left to run on autopilot. You need to discuss with one another from the onset of the relationship what goals you have about your relationship. There are lots of important things that are usually ignored when people begin a relationship that usually become obstacles in the future. For instance, lots of people never discuss the topic of kids, only to realize much later in a relationship that their partner never had kids on their mind from the get-go.

It’s important to just put things out there and talk about your relationship goals for say, the next six months so that you don’t end up wasting each other’s time. ‘Where will you live?’ Some of these things might look like they are supposed to sort themselves out automatically, but to be honest, if not given the amount of discussion airtime they deserve, they sometimes wreck things later. If the two of you are on the same wavelength, discuss how to achieve those goals.

Don’t expect perfection

Last but not least one of the other tips for a perfect relationship is NEVER to expect perfection. See, perfection is relative. So what you might be calling perfect might not be the kind of perfection that your partner might be striving for.

Am I contradicting myself given the topic of this article? Probably. The thing is, we need to be realistic here. So if your idea of perfection is 100%, that my friend is the most unrealistic thing on earth. We usually find ourselves in fights with our own siblings and parents. And, these are people that we were probably brought up similarly. But somehow, we still have our differences. We are all wired differently.

Well, here is one piece of advice I am going to leave you with. If you go in expecting perfection then you will be better off going into the relationship expecting to fail. Look at perfection from the point of ‘the relationship works’ as opposed to your 100%.

There is no 100% perfect relationship. The relationships that work are not 100% perfect. Work has gone into these relationships. That is the reason why we think of them as perfect. This is mainly because they work. Like people always say, if you think the grass in your neighbor’s lawn is greener, it’s probably because it’s been watered and given a lot of attention. So if you really want things between your partner to work out pay attention to your relationship. Work as a team!

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What is a platonic friendship? This a friendship where two people in the relationship, usually a female and a male are close friends but without there being a sexual engagement. It’s basically friends without benefits. The relationship between the male and the female is usually based on pure mutual respect. There is love between the two, but its not the romantic kind.

Read on as I discuss this topic and let you know why it is very possible to have a male and female non-sexual friend relationship.

Do platonic male and female friendships work?

Given the above definition of what is a platonic friendship, the only way that this relationship can work is when the man and the woman do not have attraction between them, or if they no longer have attraction feelings. It becomes hard for a platonic boy and girl friends to work if one of them develops feelings of attraction for the other person. It changes the whole dynamics of platonic friends

Well, let us examine the dynamics of platonic best friends and the different types and ways such friendships between a man and a woman can develop.

Purely Platonic Friends

Is it natural and possible for a man and a woman to bond together simply and purely as friends? Is it possible to maintain such a relationship for years to come on a purely mutual respect level?

When I think about it, the celebrity couple that pops in my head is Kanye West and Kim Kardashians. This is a couple we have featured here on Love is All Colors regularly. Well, the had been friends for years. And it was purely platonic – or so did Kim Kardashian claim. Now I wonder when they started developing feelings for one another. After years of failed relationships, they probably realized that a romantic relationship is possible based on the friendship that they had.

Now is one of the cases where attraction develops. It can be mutual. And sometimes, one person develops romantic feelings and attraction for the other. Like I said the only way a best friend is platonic is when the romantic attraction between the male and the female is not there. There are those individuals who manage to remain just as friends, no attraction whatsoever.

Such platonic boy and girl friends are usually there for one another. They navigate through the ups and downs that life throws at each one of them together. They have pure and genuine love. The kind of love that a family shares with one another. This kind of pure love never develops into a sexual attraction for one another.

This kind of best friend platonic will provide you with constant and consistent love and support. This is the friend you call when something is wrong and will leave whatever they are doing to come to your rescue. Healthy boundaries are maintained throughout the relationship.

From exes to platonic

There are those instances when two people who had a good connection as a romantic couple break up amicably. Normally it could be because they just couldn’t make it work or they probably had irreconcilable differences.

If they were close and had a true friendship and connection besides their underlying romantic one and things ended in good terms, this sometimes develops into a purely best friend platonic relationship.

Now, this is something that both parties need to agree upon… converting the romantic relationship into a pure friendship one. No sex expected or involved. This however can be a bit tricky especially if they meet someone new. Feelings of jealousy from the new relationship can arise. There might be an assumption from the new girlfriend or boyfriend that you are probably not over one another.

You need to however discuss all this with your ex and determine the dynamics of the relationship. Make sure that both of you are on board and that the sexual attraction that you both had for one another is over. Otherwise, you will only be lying to yourselves.

Here are some of the things to consider and discuss whether or not to have a platonic friendship with your ex.

• Is your ex comfortable with the idea of being platonic friends?
• How should the relationship be like and what are the boundaries?
• What if one of you re-develops romantic feelings in the process? How are you going to handle that?
• Decide to break the platonic best friends relationship if one of you is no longer comfortable with pursuing it any further.
• Consider the possibility of new partners and the fact that they might be jealous. In such a case, agree to distance yourselves from each other.

Make sure after you have agreed to transition to a best friend platonic friendship to keep checking in on one another regularly in order to make sure that both of you still feel comfortable moving forward.

How to deal with attraction in platonic relationships

In most cases, an attraction can develop between one or both individuals. See, Kim and Kanye above. That happened to them. Now if both of you feel the attraction, then you need to discuss if it is safe to transition to a romantic relationship.

If only one party develops romantic feelings, the one who doesn’t needs to be honest with the other person. You might have to make hard decisions about how to proceed. Having a crush when a  best friend is platonic, it can be quite hard on the person with the crush if the feelings are not mutual. Much as the other person might not have reciprocal feelings its important to come right out and say it. However, you need to consider the possibility that mentioning it might jeopardize your relationship.

There are those instances when the attraction feelings are mutual. Well, you also need to consider that there is a possibility that if the romantic doesn’t work, things might never be the same again. It’s a risk both of you are taking of potentially losing your friendship altogether.

Before you even consider turning your platonic friendship to a romantic one, discuss this together and come up with a plan of how you will deal with one another in case it doesn’t work out. If on the other hand, you decide that the platonic male and female relationship is too important to jeopardize, take some time off spending too much time with one another until the feelings subside.

Conclusion:

Do platonic relationships work? Well, that depends. They usually don’t work for everyone. There are considerable instances that these relationships can be maintained until death do them part. It is possible to successfully have a friend of the opposite sex without the sex being in the picture.

One thing you need to ask yourself when considering or agreeing to a platonic relationship is whether there is some attraction between the two of you. Before you begin or consider a platonic relationship, think about the romantic relationships in your life.  Will they be affected if you decide to move forward with building this type of relationship.

How important is this friendship to you? In the case of a jealous spouse, which one will you choose? A jealous spouse over your friendship or the other way around? Well if your platonic friend has been in your life before meeting someone new, always remember to come clean about their existence to your new partner. Establish from the word go that having a platonic relationship is OK with your new partner. You are better off letting them know sooner so that you can make a choice sooner rather than later when the new relationship starts transforming into something serious.

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If you are set off to searching for a cougar, which are the best cougar dating sites that are genuine and reliable? These days, older women are seeking younger men. These women are putting their best foot forward to be very sexy and appealing to the younger men. Now on a typical day, it can be quite hard to really figure out which of these young men are looking to date a cougar and which ones are looking to date a cub or women of the same age. 

Now even if the men manage to identify older women, pursuing them can also be difficult. This is the reason why today, Love is All Colors brings you a review of various sites so you can choose the best site to meet cougars that offers equal opportunities for both the cougars and the male cubs to approach each other freely. Read on as we narrow things down for you…

Cougar dating site review

One thing you have to admit is that everyone has a busy lifestyle. And cougars aren’t exempt from it. Now, remember we are talking about women who are sexy, more mature, and more sophisticated. They have stable, great careers. So chances are such a woman has no time hopping from pub to pub, club to club looking for younger men. Where is that time really? All cougars want is to meet younger mature men from the comfort of their homes… through cougar dating web sites.

Well, there are lots of cougar dating web sites. Much as there are lots of free cougar dating sites reviews this cougar dating sites review is different. We have picked for you and reviewed five of the best cougar dating sites. In this review, some of the popular dating sites (not specific to cougar dating) which are potential dating sites to find cougars have also been reviewed.

Below are some of the things that were put into consideration in this cougar dating sites review, where 100 different dating sites and apps were evaluated:

• The membership (quantity) and the quality of the single older women
• Ease of use of the site
• The difficulty of meeting a cougar on the site
• Investigation of any fishy activities on the site

Much as there are lots of single cougar dating sites only a few are worth your time. So if you are really into dating a cougar these are some of the top-rated cougar sites that work. Check these ones out and start meeting attractive cougars in any of these dating apps to find cougars.

Cougar Life

For three years in a row, the main goal of CougarLife has been to connect the modern confident woman with that energetic younger man. And for the years it has been in existence it has come on top as the best cougar dating site for meeting single, attractive, older women.

Out of all the options in this cougar dating site review, this site has been consistent and helping younger men and older women connect making it one of the best cougar hookup sites as well as a great site for long-term relationships for those interested in that.

Besides having a great free trial, here are some of the things that make Cougar Life the best cougar dating website:

• The site has more cougars using the dating site that any of the others reviewed. It has over 7,000,000 active members meaning better search results. Much as the other sites have more female members this is one of the real cougar sites out there hence you will save more time on this site than on a normal dating site. No competing with younger women here.
• The women are interested in meeting in real life, making it one of the best cougar hookup sites. The women here know what they want and are not here to get compliments to boost their egos. This is the beauty of using a niche site.
• There is a great response rate from the women making it the best site to meet cougars. This is because the women here are open and not afraid to meet younger men and go for it. The men here know they are here to meet older women and vice versa hence higher rates of pursuing and responses.
• By far the best dating sites to find cougars option for younger men. Here, younger men are in for a treat. This is the place younger men can find a great number of older women dedicated to and actively search for younger men.

eHarmony

Now if you are looking for the best cougar dating site that has single older women interested in a long-term relationship, then eHarmony is the place to be. First, they have got the numbers advantage – over 3omill registered members – and quality of single older women.

• The site was on our list of best cougar dating sites because there are tons of women on it. Much as it is not specific to cougars, it has the best balance male-to-female ratio in comparison to other major sites. For a young man looking for cougar love, it means a variety of options and less competition.
• The response rate of older women is also high.
• Much as the sign-up process is long, it’s actually an advantage because those who are willing to go through it means they are serious about meeting new people. That alone filters the jockers.
• The communication process also helps one to get to know someone before meeting in person. This makes it easier for younger men who might have trouble talking and connecting with women in real life.

AdultFriendFinder

This is the best website to find cougars for hook-ups and short-term cougar fun. Even with your busy lifestyle, no one should miss out on a little fun. You deserve it.  On this site, you will enjoy a lot of no-strings-attached fun. It is a site for men of all races. This site has no limitations for women over their 30s making it the best website to find cougars.

What makes it one of the cougar sites that work?

• Enormous database (50 million-plus) with the highest membership being of single women in their 30’s, 40’s, and even 50’s. It’s the best way to meet cougars online.
• For a short-term cougar fling, you need a site with lots of older women, long-term reliability, and a site dedicated to hooking up people interested in the same thing – short-term fun. This best cougar dating website nails all three.

EliteSingles

This is one of the best cougar app and sites for college grad single professionals. There have been some great success for young male single professionals in meeting single older women.

What makes it shine?

• A lengthy sign-up process which gives potential mates an in-depth insight into what you are looking for.
• Automatic matching to cougars looking to date younger males hence saving time

Unfortunately, if you are not a college-educated professional, this site might not be your cup of tea.

Tinder

Final on our list of best cougar dating sites is Tinder. Well here, your looks really count. Much is it not really popular with older women compared to the other above-mentioned site, it is really popular with younger men and women. So if you are a cougar on the prowl, this is the best cougar app to prey on those younger dudes.

Now that you have rad these free cougar dating sites reviews, you don’t really have to take out word for it. Visit the sites and get a free trial. Feel for yourself and choose what works best for you.

Well, read this article on why finding love online works better compared to offline dating.

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If you are considering dating someone with a kid, you need to realize that much as it can be fascinating, especially if you are into kids, it can also be very tricky. This has always been quite a complicated subject especially if you have people around you who worry about your choice of dating someone with a child.

Much as the decision ultimately lies with you, read on as we explore some of the things that you need to be aware of and be prepared to handle them in case they arise.

What should you consider before dating someone with a child

Is the relationship casual or a long-term relationship?

Most people dating with children take their time before letting someone in. So chances are maybe this person you have met just wants a fling and prefers to keep the relationship away from the kid. In that case, if you are both in agreement then the relationship shouldn’t be an issue. If on the other hand, this person dating with kids wants something more serious, then you will have lots of things to consider.

Do you want or love children?

When people, especially if its a woman says they don’t want to ever have children, people always find it weird. Well, not every person is born with the parent genes. The thing is, wanting to bear children of your own and loving children are two different things.

So if you are wondering whether dating someone with a kid is something you should go ahead with, I will first ask, do you love kids? Do you want kids around you? If the relationship is casual as mentioned above, then being in relationship with someone who has a child won’t be such a big deal. You can schedule to have your dates when the child is not around.

If it is to get serious, you need to ask yourself if you are willing to raise someone else’s kids. The thing is when things start getting serious, you will have to meet your partner’s child at some point… probably even live together under the same roof. Can you be a parent to the child?

Don’t expect to be number 1

I am not saying that you will never be number 1 when you are dating someone with kids. All I am cautioning you is not to expect to be number one because you may never be. The thing is, all this will depend on the kind of relationship that this man or woman you are dating has with the kid. If your new crush has a close relationship with the child or it so happens that he or she is the one living with the child at home, forget about getting 100% of their attention. Expect that child to always come before you.

However, being in relationship with someone who has a child doesn’t necessarily mean that you will be neglected. The plus side of this person putting the needs of the child first just shows how dependable and caring they are. So if you are not the needy, attention-seeking kind of person, then you shouldn’t have any problem with such dynamics of the relationship if or when they arise.

Kids require time and energy

So you have met this incredible person. You are even toying with the idea that you will love that kid like your own. Well, before you jump into that relationship, hear this…  Kids take a lot of energy. So if you are planning on dating someone with a kid you will be forced to make some sacrifices whenever the kid is involved. If the relationship is supposed to work, then be prepared to do the work and embrace that child as your own.  When dating people with kids you actually might find yourself having to be committed to both your partner and the family. Are you ready? Imagine dating a woman with 2 kids. Are you prepared to make sacrifices for them too? If the parenting gene isn’t in you, I foresee trouble.

Can you acknowledge and accept their routines and traditions?

As a person who doesn’t have kids of their own, dating someone with kids means that you need to realize that this person had a life before they met you. And this life revolved around the kid or kids. At some point, they probably were a family. And even if he or she is a single parent, that little family was accustomed to a particular way of doing things.

For instance, you can’t be the kind of boyfriend who expects the woman dating with children to sacrifice the son’s soccer game just to go partying with you. These are some of the sacrifices I was talking about. You need to be able to acknowledge and accept their routines. Unless the woman is a deadbeat mother, then expect that child always come before you.

The thing is if you start disrupting the lives of people dating with kids and then it so happens that the relationship with the kids goes sour, you will be blamed for it. Plus this is a one-way ticket to making the kids despise you. So if you are planning to have something long term with this single parent, then respect the traditions that you found this family practice. It might be hard but take your time and ease yourself into the equation politely

Is the kid ready for their parent’s new relationship?

When dating people with kids, this is something that needs to handled with care. Well, it will all depend on the type of kid involved. Some kids can be very angry when they meet the new man or woman. This is because they feel that their father or mother is being replaced.

When dating someone with a kid it is important before you even rush into anything serious or meeting the kid to find out if this person you dating has ever dated someone before you came along. Ask him or her how the kid feels about his or her dating. If there is an issue, then figure out how to tackle it as mature adults before you get too involved. Or you will end with a broken heart.

Wondering what dating someone with kids pro and cons are? Read more single parent dating advice on Love is All Colors.

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Like all interpersonal relationships, at some point, couples in a romantic setting also experience relationship challenges. Most of these are common to many couples.  A little friction doesn’t necessarily mean that the relationship is doomed. If a couple knows how to resolve conflict in a relationship harmoniously, then they can avoid getting to the point where the small friction becomes a threat to their relationship.

Keep reading as we examine some of the most common relationship hardships…

Common love challenges for couples

Infidelity

This is one of the most common challenges in relationships. Cheating has devastating consequences. The emotional consequences are anger, depression, and humiliation. This has been cited as a major cause of divorce and breakups.

One thing that makes it harder to deal with especially in a monogamous relationship is the violation of trust. Infidelity can be both emotional, physical or a combination of both physical and emotional affairs. It involves a behavior that is not approved by the other spouse. It also involves behavior that the two parties agreed that it was not going to happen.

People used to assume that men were the ones who primarily committed sexual infidelity and women emotional infidelity. Much as that might be generally true these days things have changed.

When it comes to dealing with this particular problem in a relationship, women are more likely to forgive sexual infidelity while for most men, it is a major deal-breaker. Men justify their affairs for sexual reasons (such as lack of sex at home) whereas women justify them by citing emotional dissatisfaction.

Couples who have had to deal with infidelity find it challenging when it comes to resolving it. It is one of the relationship challenges that is hard to get over.

Conflict

This is one of the common marital problems that couples can’t seem to avoid. This is mainly because people grow up in different environments and around different people. So when they meet, they will definitely have different opinions regarding different things (values, dreams, desires, perceptions) including how to overcome relationship problems and conflict.

There is a wide range of conflict. Some are more serious than others. Most common marital problems and conflicts are caused by neglect of a spouse’s needs, wants, and desires. Now if the other person is unwilling or unable to meet these needs, wants, and desires, this fuels resentment in the other party.

Now if one of the parties doesn’t care or watch what they say, the situation always becomes worse. If the relationship is fresh, this becomes a breeding ground for early relationship problems.

If one person in a relationship feels like there is some inequity or imbalance in the benefits of being in that relationship then things are bound to go wrong.

We all know the negative results of conflict. The main consequences of this relationship challenge are mainly psychological… unless in cases when conflict becomes physical.

There are times that conflict can be constructive. Couples who can overcome conflict or continue to relate to each other even after a wrangle tend to build more trust and confidence in each other. They develop better ways of resolving their problems.

That said though, recurrent conflict usually depicts bigger relationship hardships that a couple needs to consciously address. When this happens a couple should consider seeking professional help or help from a friend who can be neutral and has the best interests of both parties at heart. Such third parties assist couples to be able to identify the root cause of their conflict and help them figure out how to overcome relationship problems.

Lack of intimacy

When people hear the term intimacy, their minds automatically think ‘sexual’. I will have you know that intimacy is a broad term. It touches on the physical, social, mental, spiritual – not forgetting the usual sexual – aspects of our lives. Intimacy is what brings about the togetherness that romantic couples feel. It is the emotional bond and the connectedness that couples feel.

When intimacy expectations are not met or are ignored, this often affects a relationship hence causing love challenges for couples.

Sexual problems

Whether we like to admit it or not, sexual intimacy is one of the most important glues in a romantic relationship. Sex is what separates interpersonal relationships from romantic ones. Just like all other relationships problems sexual intimacy problems arise whenever there is an imbalance in their styles and expectations of sex.

When the relationship is young couples usually have intense feelings, passion and sexual desire for one another. But as the relationship exits the ‘honeymoon phase’, external factors like work, kids tend to have a negative effect on a couple’s sexual intimacy. This becomes frustrating to one spouse or both. This frustration breeds problems.

Sexual dysfunction can also be a cause of this problem in a relationship. Such dysfunction disorders include sexual desire disorder, sexual arousal disorder as well as sexual orgasmic disorder. So when figuring out how to overcome relationship problems such as this one related to sexual intimacy, a couple should be able to differentiate between sexual dysfunction and sexual problems. So if sexual problems are the issue, then a therapist might be able to step in and assist the couple to bring back emotional and social intimacy in their relationship.

Poor communication

Communication is key to any healthy relationship. Whenever a couple is experiencing a relationship couple, good communication can really salvage the situation. Couples with a healthy relationship know how to talk to each other openly, raise issues with one another in a healthy manner as well as listening to one another.

When there is poor communication there is no connection between couples. There will be no reassurance. A couple might experience problems in discussing and solving relationship challenges as well as sharing important information and opinions with one another. Early relationship problems usually arise when a message sent is misunderstood or misinterpreted by the other party.

It is common for a couple to experience communication breakdown when they experience problems. The lack of communication can tear a couple apart. Healthy reciprocal communication is what binds a couple together. When it’s healthy, they can talk together and come up with their own solutions to their problems – solutions that work for them.

When a couple develops healthy and productive ways of communicating with one another, they will realize that they are able to resolve their relationship challenges effectively. This is why all couples’ therapists focus on enhancing communication skills between a couple ­first. ­

Breakups and divorce

The rates of divorce are increasing at an alarming rate with 50% of marriages in the U.S. ending in divorce. Well, this usually happens when a couple reaches a stalemate when it comes to dealing with their problems. When it becomes too much to bear or one or more of the above challenges aren’t resolved, one or both parties decide to end the relationship.

For many people, breakups and divorce tend to be a very painful experience to deal with. They have emotional, social, psychological, as well as financial implications for the couple. But much as we would all like for love to always prevail, there are those cases where we just have to accept and move on.

Depending on the reasons for dissolving the marriage, this can bring about feelings of depression, anxiety, and other psychological disorders. If a couple has reached a point of no return, it’s important to seek the help of a therapist to assist with the transition.

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Meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time, especially when you are in an interracial relationship can be a bit scary. No matter how convincing the boyfriend is about the parents’ openness and acceptance to your interracial relationship people always find themselves having jitters. Much as your boyfriend might be confident about this big move there are those parents who usually seem OK with their kids having friends from other races and then draw the line when it comes to dating. So if this is his first interracial relationship, then I would understand why the thought of meeting boyfriend’s parents can be scary.

That said, read on Love is All Colors about these ways that I have compiled on how to avoid making errors during the first meeting.

What meeting his parents is really like

Interracial couples potentially have it harder because of the cultural differences involved.  There is probably the food that might be something you have never tried,  unfamiliar customs. Now, this isn’t my way of discouraging you. It doesn’t always go south. However, you need to prepare yourself just in case because some of these differences can drive a wedge between you and the family.

Some people’s cultures can be quite conservative. For instance, for some people, meeting boyfriend’s parents is as good as an engagement announcement and a promise of a wedding in the near future. So you need to know how to deal with conservative parents to prepare yourself for any cultural pitfalls.

Much as we have different races and cultures in the world some folks still have preconceived stereotypical opinions about other people’s cultures. So when meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time you need to be prepared for such a scenario. Here are some ways to be ready for this.

Ask your lover to talk to his family first

Wondering how to deal with conservative parents? The best way to go about it is to ask your boyfriend to have a talk with them and convincing them beforehand as opposed to just ambushing them. If for instance, they have never had an experience with you dating interracially, or expect him to date or marry someone within their race, it might take them longer to warm up to the idea of meeting you. This is expected with older family members.

Ask your significant other to meet with his family without your accompanying him first to confront their discrimination and discuss how all this makes both of you feel. Decide when to meet the parents and make sure they are expecting both of you.

Prepare

Getting to know a little about the values and traditions of your boyfriend can go a long way when it’s time to meet your family. Make sure you and your boyfriend cover the important bases. For instance, talk about what to wear when meeting his parents. Some parents might not consider that little black dress to be appropriate for family gatherings.

The other thing to discuss is how much affection is appropriate and where you will sleep in case you are spending the night. Some families might take public displays of affection as disrespectful.

Make sure he tells you about how introductions go about, meals and prayers. If you are going to meet them on a special day, find out how the ceremonies are conducted. Remember the way you do their things is the way they do theirs. Respect their cultural customs.

Educate yourself

Most times a little bit of education and sincerity can soften even the toughest and most conservative family members. It shows a caring side. Everyone wants their culture and traditions respected. For some couples, the biggest challenge of being in an interracial relationship is getting your loved one’s family to like and accept you.

So ask your boyfriend about the things that are meaningful to his family and try to understand their family dynamics. Learn as much as you can in order to be more understanding. The more you make an effort to understand how and why they approach situations as they do, the more you’ll understand their perspective. If they speak a different language, learn simple things like “hi”, “how are you”, “nice to meet you”, “thank you” etc

Food is something that most cultures value. Ask him about their food culture and accustom yourself to some of the tastes before meeting your boyfriend’s family. The thing is, in time, all this will grow on you.

Speaking of food, there are some cultures don’t drink alcohol every time they are having dinner. Find out what is normal for his family and adjust before you meet them.

Don’t make assumptions

When you decide when to meet the parents of your interracial boyfriend, steer clear from making assumptions. Just because you have heard stories here and there about the Latinos for instance, there are millions of them in the world. So please don’t generalize. Trust me, you can never be accurate when you decide to go down this route.

Instead, ask your boyfriend about their personal and family values and traditions so that you can learn from their own experience. Making generalized statements meeting his parents can be very rude, especially if they don’t live their lives that way. Also when deciding on what to wear when meeting his parents, ask him if they have a particular dress code for that lest you end up looking overdressed and like a clown in case, they are a modern family.

The thing is not to assume or turn to Google for an answer. Just tell them what you think about their culture and ask them to tell you as much as they can to prepare you for the visit.

Expect judgment from some of the family members

When you meet the family you might have to deal with silent whispers or judgment that might not be that silent. There are those that might just come right out and voice their opinions. This usually happens if you are the first interracial date being introduced to the family. Your boyfriend might be hearing comments about how he is making the wrong decision dating you.

Have a code word

Sometimes, the best way to deal with this is to have a code word for when things get uncomfortable. So feel free to text the code word to your boyfriend. This will mean that things are getting overwhelmingly uncomfortable and awkward for you. Don’t change too much to please them.

If the conversation isn’t going so well, use the code word so that you can have a private moment with your partner on how to better handle the situation.

Count your losses

Sometimes, meeting your boyfriend’s family can go south. You need to be aware that it is hard to change family members’ opinions. So it will be up to them to be inclusive or divisive.

First off, don’t try to make a big deal out of it or stress over it. Do not make a fuss over it during your first visit over how much his family has not accepted you. Build up a united front instead. The thing is, pointing it out too much might even make you end the greatest thing that ever happened to you.

Your partner might be forced to choose

Your partner may have been able to sit with his family and explained how much your relationship is important. He might have told them that even if they had strong opinions about your relationship, they need to respect his choice.

But if the family becomes too hostile and is against you meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time, then your partner might have to make some tough decisions. To stop the relationship or to stand by you and choose to continue this relationship.

Whatever decision he makes, he needs to make them aware of how hurtful being put in a position where he has to choose is.

Don’t take it personally

If meeting your boyfriend’s parents for the first time doesn’t go as smoothly as you might have expected, don’t sweat it. People tend to fear or be skeptical about the unknown. A little getting to know you more might change their perception eventually.

If you care about your relationship and they still don’t warm up to you, these family members can come between the two of you. But it only depends on how strong your relationship is. So if your partner doesn’t stand by you and defend you when you meet the family that turns out to be hostile, then its probably time to re-evaluate whether to continue with the relationship or not. This is something that you shouldn’t brush off.

Remember the challenges that interracial couples go through can sometimes be magnified by the lack of acceptance. If it doesn’t work out, don’t beat your self up. If they are not open-minded, understand that people are different. Treat them with kindness during the visit and walk away peacefully.

Read this article on the challenges that this woman, Jocelyn, encountered when meeting the family of her interracial love.

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There are some things that women do that they have no clue that they are the biggest turnoffs for men. Maybe there you have heard men voicing their opinions about some of these lady-behaviors. Much as it is important to understand and cultivate traits that men find attractive, it’s also important to figure out what repels members of the opposite sex.

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List of turn offs for men

Unfortunately, even after hearing that some of the things you do push men away, you probably haven’t had the motivation to stop doing some of these. What makes you swipe left vs swipe right? Maybe you should also consider that with men.

There are some biggest turnoffs for men that drive men away faster than others. Well, maybe this piece will give you that well-needed push and help you understand why what you are doing could be the biggest turnoff for men. The list of turn offs is very long. Today, let’s discuss the 10 that top that endless list…

1. Playing dumb and being arrogant and demeaning

If you are the kind of woman that thinks that men are threatened and repelled by smart women, then think again. If a man is the right kind of man looking for a healthy relationship, then he will be attracted by confident, smart women. Trust me when I tell you you will never have a good relationship if you are dating a man who is intimidated by your smartness. That kind of man will bring you down, toy with your self-esteem and before you know it, you are his helpless puppet.

Lady, you need to find a man who values your intelligence… A man who likes you for you and who you can be yourself around him.

If you are not stupid, then don’t play stupid. All it will do will push him right into the arms of a girl who us smatter. Speaking of biggest turn ons and offs list, being smart doesn’t mean arrogant and demeaning to the man. The thing is, men aren’t turned off by intelligence. However, a bad attitude and disrespect can turn him right off. All he wants is a challenging woman he can have conversations with. Not a woman who talks down to him.

2. Faking it

One of the other biggest turnoffs for men is being a fake about everything… even pretending that he is funny when he is not. Men admire authenticity in a woman. And if he is secure, it will be OK not to pretend that he isn’t funny.

One of the ways that women are known to fake it is pretending they enjoy a man’s interests when they don’t… Or saying how much you love doing something with him when you don’t. And you know you can’t fake it forever. At some point, it will become exhausting and the fakeness will become visible.

And while speaking of faking, don’t do it with sex either. If you want a great sex life for both of you, then communicate. Show him or tell him politely how he can please you. Plus, you might learn a lot about pleasing each other, being in sync sexually, hence more sexual satisfaction. When a man discovers that you have been faking it sexually, its usually a big blow to his self-esteem.

3. You have nothing else going on  for you but him

Now much as it is very ego-boosting for a man to know that he is your number one priority, it is a turn if he realizes that he is your ONLY priority. Men like women who have other things going on in their lives for them. It can be anything – a job, a hobby, meeting up with friends to do whatever makes you happy. Just something else that isn’t him.

One thing that happens when a man is your only priority is that you tend to put too much pressure on him and too little space. Before long, he will feel suffocated and will flee to get some air.

4. Bad language and talking dirty grossly

Now, having a foul language is one of the other biggest turnoffs for men. The thing is, a person with good communication skills should be able to express their emotions, both positive and negative, without using bad language. Constant cursing shows immaturity. And that is why its such a turnoff.

The other one that is close to foul language is talking dirty in bed. Well generally, its really a good thing. Now if the dirty talk turns into words that express self-disapproval, then it stops being a turn on and becomes plain weird. Don’t call your self “daddy’s little girl” or “a dirty little baby”. Talk dirty… Just don’t make it creepy.

5. Feeding off of drama

This comes in various forms. Whether its manipulation, constant arguing or reacting explosively over issues, this is the biggest turnoff for men and women alike. It shows immaturity and inability to control one’s emotions. Causing a scene over even the slightest of problems can be scary to anyone. This is because the man will have to walk on eggshells when around you. After all, he will never be sure how you will react to anything.

Men hate drama. Period.

The thing is, how long a man can put up with a dramatic woman depends on what a man is getting out of the relationship. Drama makes a man weigh whether he loves you enough to tolerate the drama. Remember, every man has his breaking point. That’s why some men leave even after more than 10 years of marriage…

6. You are too masculine

Now being one of the guys can be great – loving the football, telling little dirty jokes… That said, men also love that feminine side of women as well. That bit that needs a man to do stuff for you like fixing the taps and changing your tire. And then there is the dressing up bit.

In a relationship, one person has to bring in the feminine energy and the other more masculine energy. So if you a looking for a strong man, being too masculine and domineering is one of the biggest turnoffs for men. It will squash his masculinity. There will be more passion in a relationship if both the female and male energies complement each other.

The alpha male theory is a thing. And men, consciously or unconsciously want to be the lead male in the relationship. So much as you are working in a male-dominated environment where you have to compete with men, trust me, better leave that competitiveness at the workplace. Being too forceful and too masculine will be denying a part of who you are hence suppressing the feminine energy that attracts women to men such as appreciation, listening, connecting and emotional IQ.

7. Constantly nagging and complaining

One of the other biggest turnoffs for men is nagging. Complaining is also tied to this. See, if you raise an issue and nothing is working, then maybe your communication skills are working against you. So instead of complaining about what is not working, ask for what you want. Focus on how to make things better as opposed to what you don’t want. This helps you not go into the complaint-mode.

The other thing I’d like to point out is this: “ASK”, not demand. Yes, we all have our expectations of others. And men usually want to please women. So when you focus on what you want, then he will most likely try to give you that. Complaining means you don’t appreciate him and trying to please a woman who is not appreciative is no fun at all.

What makes you swipe left vs swipe right? Even on a dating profile, be positive about what you want. One of the online dating mistakes women make is saying they don’t want a man with baggage and complaining about exes. This only makes a man flee before even giving you a chance.

Men will go out of their way to please a woman who graciously asks but doesn’t demand – one who appreciates him, not one who constantly complains. Constant nagging makes a man turn the deaf ear. Change this and give him the chance to change too. Eventually, he will catch on.

8. Thinking of a future together too soon

Ladies, get this from mem for free – Even men do want to get married, settle and have children. The only thing with us is that we want to be sure and fall in love with you first before jumping into marriage. For us, it is never about doing it because of pressures from family or expiry date. We want to be ready for it.

One of the biggest turnoffs for men is women who start talking about and planning a wedding even before a man knows them. If you are are on your first date save the baby and baby wipes talks for later days. Fast-forwarding into the future is such a turnoff. You don’t want to reak of desperation. Give the man a chance to get to know you first.

This doesn’t mean that men don’t envision all those things about having a family. They do. They just don’t talk about them on the first date. Not on the second date. Definitely not on the third date either… Catch where I am going with this?

9. Sending mixed messages

Sending mixed signals and messages is a turnoff for both men and women. No one wants to date a person who says one thing then acts in a totally opposite manner. You better walk the talk when it comes to your romantic relationship. At the same time, you need to practice what you preach. Don’t get mad at your dude because he stayed late with friends when you also do the same.

10. Assuming all men are the same

I know this one really gets into every man’s nerves. This new man you are dating is nothing like your ex-boyfriends – the ones who slept with your best friends. No matter how much women like generalizing and saying that ‘all men are douchebags’, not all of us are. See, the thing with making such assumptions is that they affect how women react to some situations. So a small argument might turn into something big because she has already predicted what the man will supposedly do next. This will chase a man away so fast, you won’t even know what hit you. Just give a man a clean slate.

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Learning how to get over a crush on best friend isn’t easy. Having a crush on a friend is the worst thing to ever go through, especially if your feelings aren’t reciprocated. If they are then its a different story as the two of you can work something out as adults. If they are not then that is where the issue comes in. The main reason is that this is a person you constantly talk to and hang around. So if you are here looking for answers on how to stop crushing on your friend, is it impossible? I have to agree it will be hard. But then again, its something that can be done.

Well, let us take a look at how to get over your best friend…

How to get over a crush on a friend

If you have started liking your best friend romantically but for some reason, they are not interested or they are romantically involved with someone else, then you have come to the right place. It is much harder letting go of the romantic feelings you have on a friend that letting go of a stranger’s crush. And the main reason is that, with a friend, you share hobbies or even have mutual friends. So the fact that you are constantly around one another makes the feelings grow much stronger.

How long does it take to get over a crush on best friend?

Well, if you are here thinking “I have a crush on my best friend“, it all depends on how determined you are to get over them. Depending on how much you are crushing on them, it can take time. So there is no definite answer when it comes to time, especially if you can’t avoid bumping into them when your nursing your shattered heart.

You might be forced to even make changes that might affect your relationship as friends. You need to be disciplined enough to make these changes. So it also depends on how much you want to preserve the friendship. These changes are just a temporary measure until the crush is over. But you need to give yourself time to deal with your emotional roller coaster before running back to your friend.

Here is what to do when you have feelings for a friend…

Give yourself time to grieve

Unrequited love can be depressing. No one likes being rejected. So even the strongest of souls have it hard. The first thing on how to stop crushing on your friend is to allow yourself yo feel the grief and anger of the love that is not being reciprocated. If you are thinking “I have a crush on my best friend” and you have made the decision to move on, then you have to allow yourself to deal with the feelings of a loss of love, because to you, they are real. So for you its a real break up.

Pursuing someone who isn’t interested will only hurt you further and actually make you feel pathetic. It will also eat into your healing time. But you need not feel pathetic about grieving over lost love. Stay home. Eat tons of ice cream. Scream into your pillow in frustration. Do whatever it is that you normally do when you’re coping with sadness and loss. Feel it. Own it. Give yourself that time.

Keep a little distance

Now I am not saying that you stop hanging out with them completely or give you some hardcore rules on how to handle the distance. People are different. And what works for someone else might not work for your relationship. That said if you are really looking for answers on how to end a crush on a friend, then you will have to create some extra space between you and the crush on a female friend or male friend. Give yourself some space to deal with these feelings.

Processing your feelings can be harder, no matter how much they have said they are not interested. Some moments of closeness can be misinterpreted as a change of heart and bring back the feelings for your best friend. This might make you go through the mourning period over and over.

If you really want to know how to get over your best friend, cut the amount of time you spend. If you keep saying “I am thinking of my best friend”, then try reducing the amount of time you spend talking to them. You could take a few weeks off from hanging out with them. Use this time to focus on other relationships in your life and other activities. Whatever works for you, just create the space.

The bottom line is, if you find it harder to get over them, friends move on too. So if unrequited love is too much to take in, do yourself a favor and cut down all ties.

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Online dating works. There are people who use it as the sole way of meeting new people and there are those who swear by how well it has worked for them. These days, instead of people walking into a bar to interact with people they are going to social events in the hopes that they might make a connection with some stranger, they just sit in their own space and look for companionship online. This is rather unfortunate for those people who only believe in the traditional way of meeting someone as some feel some deep sense of rejection and loneliness.

So why do most people find online dating better? Scroll on as we explore this popular way of dating…

Online dating vs traditional dating

Online dating has become a trend that has changed how people used to score for dates. Before its advent, people used to rely on actively making real-life interactions with others. But looking at traditional dating vs online dating, we are being met by a strange reality where a person can make friends, score a quick date from dating apps and even fall in love and eventually get married. And all this begins with just sitting at the computer or with a little swipe on their smartphones. The real-life interaction comes later after an online connection has been formed.

Let us look at online dating vs traditional dating in detail in light of why online dating works…

Convenience

Imagine the number of dating websites out there. Then there are the thousands of members that most dating websites have. Compared to traditional dating, this is the true case of dating made easy. It is convenient and can be done in the comfort of the home. So you don’t need to use up all the physical energy you have left after a hard day’s hopping from bar to bar in the hopes that a stranger will talk to you. Plus, with online dating, you can go through profiles and profiles between 10 to 100 times than you would meet a stranger and interact with in real life.

Affordability

Then there is the free memberships that most sites have. This is one of the main advantages of online dating. So you don’t have to spend a dime to taste the waters. Plus the choices are endless. You can always cancel the membership of a site you don’t like without breaking the bank.

The number and options

When analyzing traditional dating vs online dating, dating sites are the only places where you will find millions of singles in one place and with similar goals. So the number of choices are endless. If I may ask, how many people would you hope to find at a social gathering or club for instance that are looking to meet someone new? 50? 100 maybe? And with such places, you are never even sure the ones that are single. So your possibilities of interacting with a single person will even be less than the actual number at the event or spot. Online dating works because the millions or are online are single for the most part.

Breaking the ice

The truth about dating when it comes to breaking the ice is that there is less pressure online vs offline. This is where online dating works. See, when approaching someone online, one has time. So you have the time to actually coin a message and perfect it before approaching someone. Plus, it is also easier because there us less fear of rejection and the awkwardness that comes with it as you won’t have to deal with bystanders. It is less private. This privacy with rejection gives people more confidence when approaching others online hence increasing their chances.

With the traditional approach, there is the chance of a crowd laughing at your rejection. And this fear of this embarrassment might make one walk away from approaching a potential mate. Traditional dating puts more pressure on that pick up line to be funny and charming. And having to come up with it instantly can result in a massive fail.

Reach

A look inside internet dating we find that one of the advantages of online dating is that one is not limited to their own area. You have easy access to a wide network of people from different areas or all over the world. So if you are the kind of person who doesn’t mind relocating for love, the chances of forming online relationships are increased because of this.

On the other hand, with our busy schedules, what are the odds that you will dress up and travel for hours to a different state just to meet singles? It might end up being a total waste of time and money as there are no guarantees that you will meet someone who catches your fancy. So you end up being stuck with the same restaurants and places. But with online dating, you can expand your physical boundaries, hence, increasing your chances of finding the person you can truly connect with. Plus, if you want the truth about dating someone who lives miles away, check out the success stories and get inspiration on hoe some online couples have managed to overcome long distance relationship problems.

Bad things about online dating

Having looked at the comparison that focuses on online dating works and the benefits of online dating, let’s dig a little deeper inside internet dating into the cons of online relationships.

The lies…

Studies have found that more than half of online dating profiles are based on lies and over-embellished truths. Women lie about their age, men, on the other hand, tend to lie about how much they earn. Its easier to lie when you are not talking to someone face to face.

Chemistry

The good thing with traditional dating is that you can gauge and determine the chemistry immediately. So you get to share lots of information as well as read one’s body language. So if there isn’t much in common, you can walk away sooner. With online dating, it might take a little back and forth for months which, unfortunately, only determines the online chemistry. One thing you need to realize is that happy couple online can be otherwise offline. The chemistry might dwindle after the first date after having spent weeks or months chatting only to realize there are no real-life sparks.

Addictive and at times frustrating

One of the other bad things about online dating is that the online addiction is real. This has made us form some unhealthy habits that make us avoid real-life interactions. It’s become like online shopping. So most times we are so busy looking for and overexercising and over-analyzing potential mates online – based on some superficial comparisons available online – that we fail to recognize a potential mate in real life.

Now, in the beginning, online dating can be so much fun. But if nothing is coming out of it – a date or relationship – it tends to get cumbersome and frustrating. And this frustration is the main reason why we find bad online reviews on even the most reputable dating websites. Some people misplace their frustrations and take their failures out on the dating website.

Online dating works as 20% of the relationships today begin online

Are online relationships real? Here is one of the interesting facts about dating online dating. As per research, 1 in 5 relationships begins online. And the number is similar to marriages too. So going by science, online dating does work. You can find more statics online and also check out real life success stories on most online dating sites.

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